Ashley Hebert & J.P. Rosenbaum Split: ‘The Bachelorette’ Pair Says Breakup Comes After ‘Years’ Of Damage

The Bachelorette's JP Rosenbaum and Ashley Hebert celebrate their one-year anniversary at ME Cancun Rose Bar
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The Bachelorette fans were stunned late Wednesday evening when a longtime couple from the franchise announced their separation. Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum have split after eight years of marriage.

Ashley and J.P. posted about their separation in Instagram posts. They shared the same photo, a sweet one that showed them dancing together at a formal event, but their captions differed a bit.

They acknowledged this was difficult news to share and that fans would likely be shocked to hear about their split. They said the breakup was amicable, and they had been separated for several months already.

J.P. and Ashley both noted the beautiful children they have together, Fordy and Essie. They said they had been trying to repair the issues in their marriage for years, and the time had finally come for them to go their separate ways.

“[W]e’ve decided that it is in our family’s best interest to create new and separate lives for our children,” Ashley wrote in her Instagram post.

They also both asked for privacy, noting their main focus right now was to create healthy, stable lives for their two young children.

Another sentiment that was mentioned in both captions was Ashley and J.P. had come to determine they had fundamental differences that took a toll on their relationship.

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I have written and rewritten this post dozens of times and each time I feel the same level of disbelief and extreme sadness. While I realize that this will come as a complete shock to everyone, I can assure you that this is something that has been developing in our relationship for quite a while. It is with a heavy heart that I share with you that after months of separation, Ashley and I have amicably decided to live our lives apart from one another. Please please please know that there is no one to blame, that there’s no event that triggered this decision, that no one is the victim, and that we’ve done absolutely everything we possibly can to try to salvage this marriage. I think we’ve both come to realize that we are just two very different people, with very different personalities and perspectives, who just don’t see eye to eye on a lot life fundamentals, those which are the building blocks for a happy and healthy marriage. We have created the most beautiful, sweet and loving children, and have created so many unforgettable memories that we’ll always cherish. Our differences, however, have taken a toll on our relationship and after years of attempting to repair the damage, we’ve decided that it is in our family’s best interest live our lives apart. We request that you please respect our privacy as we move forward with the newness of our lives and attempt to create a new norm for our children. Our ultimate focus is to co-parent our kids to the best of our ability and to maintain stable and healthy lives for Fordy & Essie From the bottom of my heart, thank you for all your love and support throughout the years. It has really meant a lot to us! Wishing you all love, happiness, and good health. ❤️

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In J.P.’s note, he said he had written the announcement dozens of times before deciding it was ready to share. He noted his disbelief and sadness about what had happened and admitted this was not a sudden decision.

He also said there was nobody to blame and no singular incident that prompted the split. Ultimately, he said, they were two very different people with significantly different perspectives that were too much to overcome. He added they were unable to get on the same page regarding a number of fundamentals that were central to having a healthy marriage.

As The Bachelorette pair anticipated, fans were completely stunned by this news. A combined 30,000 likes signaling everybody’s support, along with more than 2,500 comments, flooded the two posts during the first hour after they’d been uploaded.

“Wow! I’m so shocked by this and I’m so sorry to hear this news. This must have been incredibly hard on you both. Sending love and prayers your way,” one person wrote in response to J.P.’s Instagram post.

The announcement comes almost a year after J.P. battled Guillain-Barre syndrome. As they kept people updated on that difficult situation, there did not seem to be any signs of discord between them.

Those who follow the pairings within Bachelor Nation are usually pretty adept at picking up on splits before they are announced. This time, however, it seems the breakup between Ashley and J.P. left everybody completely shellshocked.