Gary Gibson: 'Comfortably Out,' 'Virtuous Pedophile' Admits He's Attracted To Girls Under 13, Says He Won't Act On His Urges

Aaron Homer

An Oregon man who describes himself as "virtuous pedophile" because he has never acted on his impulses is trying to change the way the world thinks of adults who are sexually attracted to children, the Mirror is reporting.

Gary Gibson, 65, admits that he has "maybe done some things I shouldn't have," but insists he's never had sexual intercourse with a child, nor does he intend to.

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His wife has chosen to stick by him.

The married father of three has 10 grandchildren. The first time he realized that his sexual attraction to children was going to be a problem for him came one day years ago, the first time he changed his infant daughter's diaper..

"The first time I remember changing my daughter's diaper - 'Am I going to touch her or something?' - but I made the decision right there that that was not going to happen. Life went on - children, grandchildren."

Gibson suspected that he was not alone. In 2014, according to Opposing Views, he started a support group for other men and women such as himself, people who are sexually attracted to children but don't want to act on those impulses. The Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention International (ASAP) is a non-profit group designed to provide support to non-offending pedophiles and, when available, help them get treatment. However, he admits that it's hard for pedophiles to get treatment before they offend, because therapists are hesitant to treat them.

"90 percent of therapists don't want anything to do with pedophiles. They fear will they be stigmatized...They are afraid they will be outed as helping pedophiles."

Gary's wife, Tabitha, is supportive of her husband. As a retired nurse, she believes that pedophilia is a mental illness and not a criminal act (at least, until the pedophile acts on that attraction). Speaking to The Sun, she says that she has problems with the term "pedophile" because it insinuates that someone likes to hurt children, even if the person is conscientious about not acting on their impulses.

"I don't consider him to be a pedophile because like most people I consider a paedophile to be a child molester – which he isn't. It was a slow dawning. Pedophilia doesn't mean that your a child molester, and I think that's where people are caught out."

Now 65 and retired, Gibson reflects on how his condition has affected his life, and looks toward his remaining years.

"Overall my life has gone fairly well. I feel very comfortable."