A young woman who left home at age 16 to escape her abusive mom and dad, found herself in a predicament when she fell in love and was planning to marry the man of her dreams. That’s when, according to a post she made on the internet forum reddit, her “narcissistic” parents came out of the woodwork demanding an invitation to the wedding.
And the woman, who goes by the name Skitzokat on Reddit, but whose name is apparently Alyssa, did send her parents an invite. Sort of.
Actually, the invitation she made up specially for her parents wasn’t so much an invitation as a non-invitation. Or an anti-invitation. Here’s how Alyssa set up the scenario in her reddit post.
“So my narcissistic parents abused me for 16 years before I ran away from home. Now they’re trying to bully their way (via family, they haven’t bothered to speak to me personally) into getting an invitation to my wedding. There was really only one way to respond.”
This is how she responded.
Skitzokat posted her story and the above non-invitation about five months ago, but for one reason or another, her story just went viral on Monday.
Her spectacular comeback to her abusive parents was met with almost universal online applause, though one commenter pointed out that if her parents are truly narcissists, involving them in any emotional situation only feeds their destructive emotional needs.
“I did consider this before sending,” wrote Skitzokat. “But I’m sick of it and even if things do get worse, I’ll at least feel that little bit better about having stood up for myself for once.”
Shortly after her original post, Skitzocat posted again, this time chronicling her narcissist parents’ reaction to the stinging anti-invitation.
“I got a text today from my grandparents asking me to come up and see them about something important. I think we can all guess what it was,” she wrote.
“I sat down and my Pop handed me his phone with a text open from my Nfather. It went something like, ‘Our relationship is now irreconcilable. If you keep harassing my family I will take out a court order to protect them. I don’t want to see you again near my business/house/family/’ I love how I’m not included in that ‘his family’. Oh well.”
Sadly, her “Pop,” that is, her grandfather wanted to walk his granddaughter down the aisle — but was afraid to do so because, “if my parents did turn up he feared that he would be targeted by my father — which has happened before.”
In response, commenters urged Skitzokat to hire private security to guard the wedding, in case her parents decided to show up uninvited. No word yet on how the wedding went, or if the abusive mom and dad made an appearance.
UPDATE: The identity of “Skitzocat” was revealed a few days later to be Alyssa Pearce, a Ph.D. student in Applied Linguistics from Adelaide, Australia. Her parents did not show up at the wedding. In fact, her abusive dad threatened to sue her grandfather if he walked Alyssa down the aisle, so she walked down the aisle herself. Alyssa and her new husband, Alex, went on a romantic honeymoon to Thailand.