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Jessa Duggar ‘Enters Courtship’ With Ben Seewald, This Is So Creepy

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Jessa Duggar, daughter of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, is 20 and dating — and like everything else a Duggar does, the family is totally making it weird and gross.

Jessa Duggar met Ben Seewald, 18, at church (of course), with the narrative neatly matching up for the next season of 19 Kids And Counting.

Peoplemagazine spoke with the Duggars about what is, for most 20-year-old women, a private and personal experience — but Jim Bob is totally wedging himself in between Jessa and Ben in a way that can only be described as “creepy in the manner purity balls are creepy.” Also sort of “like what you see in a Lifetime movie.”

While many young women are married at 20, or in college, Jim Bob says Jessa Duggar is dating Seewald… or, in a sense, the Duggars are dating Seewald. He yuckily explains:

“All of our family is involved in this relationship… It is an exciting time.”

Now, before you get a purity-on, America, just think back to a second to when you were 20 years old, and imagine your dad saying that to or about (publicly) a guy you’d been dating and with whom you hoped you might go steady. And then, regardless of how religious you think you are, tell me how this isn’t outright, controlling, horrible abuse?

Jim Bob is enthusiastic about Jessa’s “courtship” because, of course, the Duggars have to take it on back to when women were chattel, even linguistically. He gushes:

“We are so excited for Ben and Jessa… They are enjoying getting to know each other and are recommending sermons to one another.”

Jim Bob won’t let his adult daughter pick her own suitors, you see — he even openly admits to how he treats his daughter, who is a legal adult:

“He’s the first one she has shown interest in that has a spiritual focus and legitimate calling about ministry work… When a guy is pursuing your daughter, you want to check him out and see if there are any red flags. With Ben, there hasn’t been. He is very sharp. It appears like a match made in heaven.”

It still gets even grosser — at 20, Jessa Duggar is subject to being controlled sexually by dad Jim Bob as well. And the family humiliatingly openly admits it, informing the world that Jessa is, at 20, not allowed to even hug or kiss a man she dates. (Though both can legally vote, smoke, join the military, and drive a car.)

Mom Michelle says:

“Dad allowed them to do a side hug when they were officially courting… They agreed that would be the only contact they should have.”

Puking in your mouth yet?

People adds that “the Duggar parents are also kept abreast of their conversations via text,” and, seriously, this woman is 20 years old. Is there some kind of underground railroad we can put her on? Don’t women go into shelters for far less abuse than this article cheerfully describes?

No one should read an adult’s private text messages, and yet this message of control and fear and female subjugation is being covered in People magazine like a Miley Cyrus video.

Jessa Duggar’s horrifically abusive courtship was depicted on last night’s 19 Kids & Counting, but, if you felt like you needed a shower after watching what I just read, you’re not wrong.

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115 Responses to “Jessa Duggar ‘Enters Courtship’ With Ben Seewald, This Is So Creepy”

  1. Michelle Walker

    While I do think that Mom and Dad should step back a bit and trust that they have taught their daughter right and that God is in her heart, I don't see anything wrong with getting to know someone without the physical bulls!@*% that gets in the way. "Gee, does he love me for me or does he love me for my tits?" Been there, done that – it blows! A hundred years ago, most things about this family were totally common and our society was a lot better off. Jim Bob, imo, is just trying to protect his daughter, even if it is a little much. If my Dad had insisted on reading my private texts when I was 20, I would have told him, "f!&# off, that's not your business!", but we did not have a good relationship. It appears that JB and his kids all have a good relationship. I know that the show likely portrays things better than they really are, but, come on – abusive? Jessa is allowing it. She seems ok with it. Let it go, people. I just hope that this guy doesn't turn out to be a REAL abuser.

  2. Marijon Benedict

    In Jane Austen's novels, the heroine's parents didn't act like this toward their daughters.

  3. Moon Dorminey

    These young adults CHOOSE this and WANT this type of life. They are strong willed and as much as I think it is kinda crazy, this is what THEY want. It is part of their upbringing and religion. I am 99% sure if these beautiful girls wanted something different they would be BUCK wild if they wanted

  4. D Dittrich Newman

    why is it this writer's business to editorialize on how the duggers raise their children? if jessa doesn't like it, she can move out.

  5. Dori Lilly

    Thank God they are watching out for their children. So you think Miley's parents are doing it right? Sitting backwhile their daughter is objectified as a whore. Instead the Duggars taught their girl to love herself and respect herself. I hope my daughters see this situation as a beacon of hope for the world.

  6. Tricia Chisholm Hoag

    I wish I were wrong about this, but her smile is lost. It isn't there in her eyes. Something is wrong. His smile is contrived and there is something else beneath it. Like I say, please pray that this is the one time I am wrong!

  7. Caroline Carrie Ellyson Carmichael

    just because they have good morals does not make them weird. it is their wishes not any one elses. leave them alone

  8. Shirley Falls

    there is nothing at all wrong with the way this is, it is a biblical family and do everything by the bible, nothing at all wrong with this. if people were more descreet and do like we are suppose to there wouldnt be so much crime and divorce i dont think. if there was more God fearing in ths world maybe we would have a better world

  9. Shirley Falls

    there is nothing at all wrong with the way this is, it is a biblical family and do everything by the bible, nothing at all wrong with this. if people were more descreet and do like we are suppose to there wouldnt be so much crime and divorce i dont think. if there was more God fearing in ths world maybe we would have a better world

  10. Caroline Carrie Ellyson Carmichael

    this is not a book, it is real life and let it go

  11. Deb Greer

    Is Jessa complaining about the concern her parents are showing? If not, then SHUT UP!!! I wish I had been more into what was going on with my daughter at 20. She was an intelligent young woman…but boy did she make some stupid choices and now she has to live with those choices.

  12. Paula Pinnix Flynn

    What really matters is what Jessa wants. She's 20 years-old. If she wants to live like this, then it's her choice. If not, I'm sure she could say so. It may cause an uproar in the family, but she would be okay financially because I'm sure she'd probably end up with her own series or something. That's how TV life goes.

  13. Kim Thomas Walls

    This is how things were done years ago and we didn't have the HUGE social and economic problems we have now. I think it's creepy you would judge and call them creepy.

  14. Tatiana Madeline

    I was just wondering where all the hate came from. The writer sounds angry and much like he had a family who didn't care for him. Maybe he is a 20 yr old. Who knows…but if more people did act like this with their children we wouldn't have more than half of the issues we have in today's society. At least they care.

  15. Patrick Frye

    What's truly abusive is the parents who don't take the time to be involved in their children's lives like the Duggars. "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter." Still, I'd agree the parents need to trust their daughter more. Monitoring texts is for teenagers, not adults.

  16. Sue Purviance

    I love the Duggers. If you would watch them and their great family this is their life and many could learn from them. This girl is honoring herself and her parents. If you think this is child abuse, more kids should have it. Kids today are many having sex with many, don't know about Jesus and are out of control. Look at our world now. I commend them

  17. Megan Christopher

    Why is it considered gross because a 20 year old woman is brought up with values and morals…something many 20 year old woman are lacking in this country?! This article is disgusting to suggest that they correct way of a 20 yearold woman to date is to be with many men and experiment and explore and do whatever, kiss whoever, and be intimate with as many men as she would like. There once was a time sex was not discussed outside of your home and was respected and was saved until marriage. If you want to go the way of numbers, statistics show that when the family is involved and likes the person of interest your relationship is more likely to last than that with someone the family is against, doesn't know, etc. This is a Christian family. I see nothing wrong with raising their children to date with a purpose of marriage and not for the sake of individuality and perversion as America loves to teach. Good for them! God forbid someone actually promote a pure relationship and not a woman that lets every man touch her in a way that SHOULD NOT be shared with any and everyone that comes along like a dog with interests wanting to make a mark. The average number of men a woman has been intimate with in the US is more than 50 men. THAT is disgusting! Again, Good for them and Great for her respecting her values.

  18. Marie Ashby

    I personally am thankful to see parents taking an active role in who their children are going to marry. Just look at the divorce rate and you can see the past years of following your heart has only let to the heart changing and the pain of divorce effects everyone around them. Kuddos to the Duggars who want to make sure that their daughter is going to be with someone with character, responsibility and leadership. I think if people don't like this they have problems with the responsibility that parents are suppose to have and the Duggars aren't afraid to embrace.

  19. Melinda Denise McCoy

    The author of this article need's some SERIOUS THERAPY!!! I grew up abused & this is definitely NOT ABUSE!!! A little strange for this day & age…but NOT ABUSE!!! Maybe, just maybe…if all families were this close & cared so much about what happened to each other…this world would be a much better place!!!!!! Get a life & stop judging a happy family!

  20. Bob Johnson

    you won't ever read about a kid named Dugger shooting up a school or a business. They are doing something right, even if the rest of us can't or won't have this level of concern and input in our children's lives. More power to them-watch them just once and tell me they aren't a loving and giving family who care about one another and the world.

  21. Stephanie Schoppenhorst

    Everyone keeps saying that it's their business, and not the writer's…. Sorry, but when you agree to do a reality TV show, you open yourself up for comments and criticism. If they don't like it, they can quit their show. As far as the daughter's relationship…. The family, and especially the father, have WAY to much to do with this girl's private business. I don't care who you are, NO ONE has the right to read your text messages. The parents should trust that they have raised their daughter the right way. Michelle Walker, you are right. There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone without the physical aspect, but the girl should have some privacy in the process. Deb Greer, part of the process of growing up is making and learning from mistakes. EVERYONE has at least one stupid mistake they wish they hadn't made, but making that mistake and what you learned from it, shaped the person you have become. Just because they don't show Jessa responding negatively to the kind of treatment she is receiving, does NOT mean she is OK with it. For all we know, she is being threatened when the cameras aren't rolling, to make sure the family's image stays clean. Or she may be so used to this kind of treatment that she just stopped fighting. There are two sides to every story…. We should hear what Jessa REALLY thinks. If she truly is OK with it, then so be it, and no more complaints from me, but I don't see how anyone can be OK with absolutely no kind of privacy in what should be a very private situation.

  22. Rob Everhart

    Well they actually make it everyone's business by being on national television and doing interviews about their business.

  23. Jami Turner

    It's their beliefs. Commenting negatively about them is as narrow-minded as the people that complain about gay marriage. This "writer" uses "totally" and "like" so much that she has about as much journalistic credibility as a 15 year old. Get a thesaurus, you're ignorant.

  24. Janice Hawkins Phd

    There are many faiths that have specific rules around dating because they expect successful dating leads to marriage. This sounds like old school traditional courtship. The author is very judgmentally trying to frame this as perverted – that's just ugly. If the young lady and her friend are good with it why are we trying to make it an issue. So much for tolerance

  25. Ladye Branch

    Jessica, I know how u feel. I went through that when i was 20. The only advise i can give you, is leave run as fast as u can and don't look back. Your 20 now don't allow your parents to have that much control. go out and be you!

  26. Jove Sabuero Cabilogan

    whoever write this i think they have angry of their family. the writer is going to far..

  27. Christen Glennon

    You're absolutely right! I'd agree with the article if Jessa was being forced against her will as an adult. This is her decision!

  28. Charlotte Mohr Poole

    The Duggars are a Christian Family, albeit in a different and seemingly eccentric way. However, I think it is absolutely unnecessary and quite abusive for the author of this article to make such nasty comments and refer to puking in your own mouth. This is not appropriate, it seems that this author has a personal vendetta against the Duggers.

  29. Josephine Gomez

    I think the mom is so full of crap She act like she is so perfect.not The way she talks is so fony.And the dad is a pervert.e ac like he is sex crazy.Makes me sick.they have thse kid so brainwash.But when thoses kis really grw up they will make there own desions.She thinks her famley is perfect not wake up Dugers MOM and DAD you are the crazys WEIRED??????????///

  30. Jennifer Rose Hilton

    his daughter must be ok with him doing this or she would leave.. I think her dad is doing the right thing if more people did this there would be less teen pregnancies, unwanted pregnancies, sexual diseases etc. people look at me like I'm weird when I say I dont allow my kids to play with the opposite gender outside of school nor can the opposite gender call my house, I will not allow regular dating until at least 18.

  31. Stephanie D Scales

    Please gimme a break its not abuse-! Not even close. If more people took an interesting their children's lives as the duggars do we would haw less teen pregnancy shows for one…. I think your sick …" Puking in my mouth" for thinking kids even young adults should not have any accountability to their families just because they are 19 or 20

  32. Kristy Ann

    Clearly the writer has no Idea how this family does things. Get of their back, if all parents were like the Duggers there would be no unplanned pregnancies. All the kids are respectful to everyone. There are just really nice and live life different then the rest of the crazy ass world!

  33. Laura Legg Adams

    Ehhh. I guess people would call me brain washed too. ( I have been a Mormon 10 years now) I think society has brainwashed too many into thinking less of sacred things. I Dont disagree with everything but we hold things sacred in my house. We allow own choices but like you said, if she believed any differently and felt abused she would most likely rebel. I think of it like my brownies….in the process of cooking them I eat the batter and lick the bowl. When they are done cooking I can't appreciate them b/c I'm full. Lol.

  34. Laura Legg Adams

    Ehhh. I guess people would call me brain washed too. ( I have been a Mormon 10 years now) I think society has brainwashed too many into thinking less of sacred things. I Dont disagree with everything but we hold things sacred in my house. We allow own choices but like you said, if she believed any differently and felt abused she would most likely rebel. I think of it like my brownies….in the process of cooking them I eat the batter and lick the bowl. When they are done cooking I can't appreciate them b/c I'm full. Lol.

  35. Laura Martin

    I don't understand what's wrong with being protective of your daughter or son & have a say so in who they marry. Aren't we given the best present on earth, a child from God? It's our duty & right to keep them safe & teach them that certain things are sacred, like marriage! I do not agree with the opinions of this author.

  36. Gena Beth Loflin

    i'm sorry to get on a rant here but i have to speak up…. i would much rather see a family that supports teaching their daughters good Christian values and making their daughters act like ladies, than to see the kind of trash we see on shows like 16 and pregnant or anything miley cyrus has done in the past 2 years! i applaud this father for teaching his daughter how to be a lady and treating a young man with respect that is courting his daughter rather than trying to get into her pants….. i salute the duggers for standing behind their beliefs and staying true to Christian roots!!!!! i'm sorry if i offend the writer of this article, but i grew up in a southern Baptist household and my father still treats me like his baby even though i am 29 years old! that's what good daddy's do for their little girls!!!

  37. Rhea Norris Ortiz

    Good for the Duggers! And look at Jessica, she looks as though she respects herself too! Isn't Miley Cyrus 20? Yeah, like Miley's a great role model…NOT!

  38. Tina M Tudor

    this way of life is the duggar girls choice… If more parents took an active interest in their daughters life there would be less unmarried, single teen mothers….

  39. Gina Keller

    D I agree. When I was 18 my dad was very strict on me and I was not allowed to be left alone with boys. He said " When you move out and take care of yourself then you can do whatever you want." The writer almost seems angry that they don't want their daughter to have sex yet. The Duggars seem to be doing something right because they have really good kids.

  40. Matt Lewis

    How much would we tolerate these kind of remarks about another country's beliefs and marriage practices? We wouldn't. And we shouldn't. Ignorance is an ugly thing.

  41. Janmill Cadriel

    ok First this writer sounds angry theres ways of getting your story out without us feeling your anger we dont want to feel that and SECOND its none of our business its there family let them do what thy want

  42. Rhea Norris Ortiz

    And people wonder why our kids are hooked on drugs and turning into skanks…it's because there aren't enough Duggers parents out there in the world that actually care how their children turn out.

  43. Carrie Sutley-Donaldson

    But I'm pretty sure they did not do this when there son was dating. Sure being protective is ok, but you can go a little to far.

  44. Kathy Evans

    You know, the older I've gotten, the more it has become apparent to me that may be a father SHOULD choose a suitor for his daughter, since a 20 year old girl is hardly capable of choosing an appropriate mate for the rest of her life. Just take a look around – all they seem to be able to do is choose their next 'baby daddy'. I would follow the example of the black father in the movie "Courageous", where he gives his daughter a promise ring that she must wear until it is replaced by her wedding ring; until then she is "married" to her father and vows to keep herself pure until she's married. Personally, I think that's a pretty damn good idea.

  45. Richard Holdman

    I suppose the judges posting here would rather have a daughter like mine?? Im sad to say this but, the world has had her since about the age of 17. Very wild and rebellious, had one child out of wedlock, 2 other children)……….very difficult to deal with at so many levels. Loves TV but dishes and house a total mess.(all the time). Lost her kids because of drugs a few years ago. (I had them. Im 69 and a widower). Well, you get the picture. You go Duggers. Ignore the devils who laugh and mock.

  46. Luz E. Kessler

    These people are so inappropriate… I mean, they crossed impropriety so long ago, the crossed line to them is now a dot, far in the distance!

  47. Julie Porter

    I read this TWICE trying to give the writer of this the benefit of the doubt, but both times I reached the same conclusion. The only thing I find "disgusting" about the above article is the writers description of this family. The actual quotes from the family make you want to go back and read the writers description again. Making one feel as though they must have missed something. Yes, she is twenty yrs old….this is her choice. Different from yours apparently, but hers non the less!!

  48. Shanny C Dennis

    Im totally a liberal person but jeez buddy… Have you ever watched the show? She vowed many years ago to her family & God that she would be a good girl what wrong with that? at least she not twerking like miley!!

  49. Kathy Keating Baio

    I think this family is weird. I don't agree with her father on dating. Do you all remember the movie Footloose? The preachers daughter wouldn't let her do ANYTHING that was against the bible. Being that Jessa is an adult, she should have the right to date whom ever she wants and kiss the guy she's dating. What is so wrong about that? Jim Bob (that's so redneck) is abusive and controlling, not just towards his kids but also with his wife. She had a makeover and she looked awesome! Her hair was shoulder length, not short and it was blown out straight. She looked like Amy Grant. But Jim Bob didn't like it. He liked her long curly hair instead. I think Michelle and Jessa should leave him. Just sayin.

  50. Stephani Cole

    I guess I'm in the middle…She is 20, her and this young man are gonna have to be allowed to have some private conversation. An young folks communicate via text these days. I also think the parents need to let up a little and trust they raised someone who's gonna keep the values they were taught…out of their presence. However, she is living under their roof…and again she is 20, she is an adult, she can move on her own and do things another way if she so chooses to…I think we all know our parents..the chances of them changing to our way of thinkin are real slim or changing just because that's what peeps are doing "now a days"…but we have a mind and free will..So her Dad n Moms thumb on her life must not bother her to much.

  51. Candy Sullivan

    The Duggars have opened their lives to the public by having a reality show, much like the Cyruses did when they did Hannah Montana and look how their daughter is living her life, licking axes, twirling on balls, naked, and twerking. I'd like to compare both of these 20 year olds in 20 years and see how they are living their lives. And, they all call themselves Christians. I am not judging Miley, I was a wild child when I was younger, but my comment is to say let's see where they are in 20 years.

  52. Amanda Myers

    We live in a very corrupt and vial society. I'm glad there are still God-fearing, Christian people out there committed to doing things the right way, in the right order, with the right values and morals.

  53. Millie Cruz

    The writer of this artical is annoying. Its non of your business you sound like you are very angry they can't have sex or hug or kiss… my goodness. I have no problem with the way the duggars are raising there daughter. They are making sure she does not get used and hurt and preventing anything from happening until they get married. I would do the same thing. I always said who ever dates or marries my daughter is in a relationship with us too because i'm going to be all up in there business making sure he's doing right by my daughter and the same goes for my son. I'm not just going to give her away to some stranger that just came along after all the hard work i've been through with my babies. Eff that. I'll let him or her know up front if they don't like it they can bounce ,

  54. D Dittrich Newman

    Matt Lewis, you are so right. If the Duggers were Muslims, you wouldn't even see this article.

  55. Donna Martin Avina

    I don't see this as abuse to be a kind, loving and strict parent, and I agree that this critic has a right to her point of view, but to publicly critique this situation isn't her right. Whether I support organized religion, or religious morals and values, has nothing to do with the Duggers right to believe and practice as they wish. From their show, they appear to be a loving family, disciplined, and happy. No way abused. I didn't raise my children so strictly, but today my children don't seem to be as happy and secure as theirs do. SO…maybe there is something of value in their methods.

  56. Deborah Callison-Tankersley

    It's not a rant you're speaking the truth……what's right is wrong and what's wrong is now right! And then they want to know why our kids are screwed up………..really?!

  57. Carla Landry Burch White

    You go duggers!! We should all be more like them! If my parents would have been more involved who knows maybe I wouldn't have made the choices I made. They are a great close family with strong morals. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe the writer should learn a few things about morals instead of crucifying families for teaching their children and protecting them.

  58. KrisTine Mittereer-Henry

    so he wonts to make sure his kids dont end up like a lot of other .thats heard.i thanks its weird that a 12 year old is having sex or 14 year old is preg or 17 year old has 2 kids or 21 year old has to pay child support.. i thank its messed up ower girl post picks of them looking like sluts ..no wonder the would is going to hell..i thank ur weird for saying thar weird .

  59. KrisTine Mittereer-Henry

    good job duggers ..ur a good role model family .god bless u and have fun jess.

  60. Laura Lynn Gentile Harrison

    I think the duggers are controlling, someone said she can leave, yes she leaves then she is considered a outcast from her family. Can we say they are brain washed? Yes they are. I disagree with most people on this post. She is controlled by her father. As I think the wife is also!

  61. Laura Lynn Gentile Harrison

    I think the duggers are controlling, someone said she can leave, yes she leaves then she is considered a outcast from her family. Can we say they are brain washed? Yes they are. I disagree with most people on this post. She is controlled by her father. As I think the wife is also!

  62. Christina Salazar

    I think you are wrong. I don't see what you see. I feel peace and I SEE GOD around all this. Jessa and Ben are just beginning to know about each other, of course it might not look like anything right now. God is in control.

  63. Christina Salazar

    I think you are wrong. I don't see what you see. I feel peace and I SEE GOD around all this. Jessa and Ben are just beginning to know about each other, of course it might not look like anything right now. God is in control.

  64. Carolynn Bjorkman

    Only SLIGHTLY over involved, I would say. Christian family or not, no matter how much you guide and teach your children, there's no guarantee. In the outside world, it doesn't take much to lead a person down the wrong path and bad decisions. I personally would prefer the parents explain the reasons behind their values and why they take such an active interest in Jesse's life. Not all kids are that blessed. But from there Jesse should be thinking for herself. If we never take a fall, we don't know how good it feels to rectify it. We want to prevent our kids from making bad choices, but sometimes they need to so that it makes sense what mom and dad were saying and trying to do.

  65. Kim LaCapria

    It's coercive. No one can say you have a fair choice if choosing freely leaves you destitute and without your whole entire family. That isn't love. Love is teaching kids values and giving them choices. What's worse is the number of people who think women and women alone should be treated this way :(

  66. Michelle Gomez

    I do think they are going slightly overboard, but like you said, if their ok with, who cares! I like them too and their show! Haven't watched in a while, but I did see an episode last night when their oldest son was on his way to DC to move with his family!

  67. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    Wow Really…. Ok parents who have raised their kids to not be hoe's and be respectful are considered creepy now a days. No wonder why we are such a messed up society. As far as being involved in the relationship I think you are taking it completely out of context. I think its great that they all (as a family) are taking the time to get to know him and welcome into the family. Maybe more families regardless of religion should take more of an interest in who their children are dating. Even at 20 we are young and stupid at times, prone to make rash decisions and lacking life experiences. WTG Duggars I'm glad that you continue to be a family which we hear great stuff about. Such a shame that this sick, twisted "writer" has to grasp at such short straws to try to make it into something its not. Maybe this writer wouldn't think that close relationships in a family were "sick and gross" if he would have gotten more attention as a child.

  68. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    Wow Really…. Ok parents who have raised their kids to not be hoe's and be respectful are considered creepy now a days. No wonder why we are such a messed up society. As far as being involved in the relationship I think you are taking it completely out of context. I think its great that they all (as a family) are taking the time to get to know him and welcome into the family. Maybe more families regardless of religion should take more of an interest in who their children are dating. Even at 20 we are young and stupid at times, prone to make rash decisions and lacking life experiences. WTG Duggars I'm glad that you continue to be a family which we hear great stuff about. Such a shame that this sick, twisted "writer" has to grasp at such short straws to try to make it into something its not. Maybe this writer wouldn't think that close relationships in a family were "sick and gross" if he would have gotten more attention as a child.

  69. Kim Zarick Lewallen

    I really think kids yearn for this hands on interaction. I see so many parents can't wait to get their kids out of their homes at 18 and its ok to have multiple partners. It is not ok. I think if adults are scared of their peers how do you think our children are made to feel. I have taught my children you don't get into a relationship unless you feel this is the person you are thinking you want to be your husband,. How dare anyone make sex and relationships so easy peasy, its a sin to not teach your children strong morals and ethics. Look at what makes dysfunction, being of the world does a pretty good job on most of us.

  70. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    well call it what you want but I'll much rather they "brain wash" their kids into making sound decisions than to allow their children to "brain dump" and become another victim to society. Now if you excuse me I need to go teach my children oh I mean "brain wash" them some manners…

  71. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    well call it what you want but I'll much rather they "brain wash" their kids into making sound decisions than to allow their children to "brain dump" and become another victim to society. Now if you excuse me I need to go teach my children oh I mean "brain wash" them some manners…

  72. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    well call it what you want but I'll much rather they "brain wash" their kids into making sound decisions than to allow their children to "brain dump" and become another victim to society. Now if you excuse me I need to go teach my children oh I mean "brain wash" them some manners…

  73. Brian W Stephens

    I'm guessing the author would prefer that Jessa woulds have already been married, pregnant and divorced as many of the role models these days are… Or maybe he'd prefer the Miley Cyrus method of courtship, Simulating sex on TV then next naked for the world to see and making out with construction tools.. I'm guessing morals, values and common decency are part of your repertoire

  74. Glenna Bible

    It's OK to want your children to have a "pure" relationship and even remain virgins until they marry, but……even birds know when it's time to scoot their babies out of the nest and make them learn to fly! If the Duggers believe they have raised their children up with Godly principles, then they have to trust God that their children will do the right things. They have to be free to express themselves and find out who they are, apart from their confines. What are Jim and Michelle afraid of????!!! Scaredy cats!

  75. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    Right on but then again as long as my children (grown or not) are in my house then they will follow my rules. and text monitoring would depend on the maturity of the child

  76. Christina Salazar

    They did do this with their son, Josh..even up to the first kiss..we all witnessed on tv when they got married. Best momemt to see. Josh and Anna are happy together with three kids now.

  77. Sharon M Rybak

    The trouble today is the lack of a moral world, and it's refreshing to see a family who truly care about their children!! Hell, I was 21, engaged and still had to be home by 1:00 a.m!! Why is this sooooo wrong, or is it plain jealousy?? I give this family credit for not taking handouts, raising a family of respectful kids, and just caring the way they do!! It's no one's concern but their own!!

  78. Laura Anne Inks

    It's brainwashing because these kids are not just raised with morals (which is not a bad thing in itself) but are raised to believe that women are for no other purpose than to be wives and mothers. They are not allowed (or taught) to do much else and that is just plain wrong. They don't have a choice in the matter.

  79. Tanya Wardlow Celestaine

    I agree with you Megan Christopher!!!!! We are raising our children similar to this.

  80. Tanya Wardlow Celestaine

    I agree with you Megan Christopher!!!!! We are raising our children similar to this.

  81. Stephanie Lynn Lease

    sounds like the author grew up "entitled" to think that this is abuse. "Don’t women go into shelters for far less abuse than this article cheerfully describes?"
    No usually the one who make it out are beaten, raped, and extorted by a person that they got emotinonaly involved with. Their families either didn't put as much care in getting to know who their daughter was with or just didn't care. And the familes that did the daughter didn't listen. That is abuse.

  82. Chantal Richards

    Its a beautiful example for anyone to want to follow. Their are many more couples around the world who do courtship first without kissing, holding hands or hugging.

  83. Carol Reis

    What DECENT father would not WATCH for red flags concerning their daughters? I would hope that my brother would be that way toward the boys that my nieces bring home!! THAT'S WHY GIRLS GET PREGNANT THESE DAYS – NO Parenting!!!!

  84. Ashley Beth Bradarvelt

    Look she grew up her whole life sheltered. If the parents just let her loose all of a sudden she might do something she would later come to regret. They are a good family and are doing what they think is best. Parents always see their children as just that, children. It doesn't matter how old they are. This is definitely not abuse. The writer doesn't know what they're talking about.

  85. Antonietta Dumeng

    Orthodox Jewish parents do the same when it comes to relationship so whats the big deal? Jewish dating is the same no sex, kissing etc until married the author of the story needs to get a grip.

  86. Jordan Dole

    Forget sex, this girl's not allowed to kiss or even hug her boyfriend. And if I were in that type of relationship, I sure as hell wouldn't want my parents micromanaging every part of it

  87. Beckah Lynn Prairie York

    Honestly I don't see anything wrong with how hes raised his kids. Does the world expect him to just let go of her when she became an adult? I raised my kids a certain way and we are very careful with the dating and courting. UGH I hate the media

  88. Kim Thomas Walls

    Deborah Smith I think it's brainwashing to convince women and girls they should allow themselves to be used by any guy who wants to. THIS "brainwashing" has occurred within the last fifty years (by men), and we have the broken families, lives, fatherless children, and social and economic collapse we're seeing today.

  89. Kim Thomas Walls

    Laura Anne Inks These women are college-educated (if they chose) and have careers. Educate yourself before judging.

  90. Poorman Sharrieff

    These same exact practices of courtship are carried out in Muslim countries, all around the world. Yet when Muslims do it they are pounced on for subjugation of women. When Christians do the exact same thing they are applauded. Therein lies the hypocrisy. Call her Fatima instead of Janna, and she is being betrothed to Mohammed instead of Ben, and then people could clearly see that this is just another way to control young girls, under the guise of religion.

  91. Michele Boser Fickel

    wow, I totally agree Melinda. Maybe this person should watch toddlers and tiaras or the billion of other reality shows out there that exploit women and children. He needs a good smack in the head!!