Katie Holmes: Why It’s Insulting To Keep Asking The Star If She’s Married

Katie Holmes is a talented actress, director, and a loving mother to her adorable daughter, Suri. She has been a notable actress since her days as awkward teen Joey on the hit TV show Dawson’s Creek. Since that point, Holmes has branched into taking on leading film roles and most recently portrayed Jackie Kennedy in the TV miniseries Kennedys: After Camelot, which wrapped its second season of filming. Katie has also made a shift to taking on the lead role behind the camera as director for All We Had. The actress recently shared that she will also direct an episode of the Kennedys TV drama in the upcoming season, which indicates Holmes has found a new love in the industry.

Despite all of her success, the media has recently focused more on a supposed secret romance between her and actor Jamie Foxx, as opposed to focusing on her success and achievements. As Refinery29 reports, it is not only the seedy tabloids that have hounded the beauty for word on the mysterious relationship, but it’s also reputable publications that typically focus on subjects that are of substance and matter.

Most recently, Katie Holmes gave an interview to the New York Times, a publication that has a reputation as one of the best in meaningful journalism. Katie was asked about motherhood and her career, yet the final question, one that is usually meant to set a final tone for the purpose of the interview, revolved around a rumored secret marriage to Jamie Foxx.

Refinery29 commented on this fact.

“Worse yet may be the fact that the marriage question ends this interview, as if it’s more interesting than anything else. Despite Holmes giving a non-answer to a question that shouldn’t have been asked, this needed to be the kicker in your empowering story? There wasn’t a more engrossing anecdote about her experience behind the camera? Or what she’s going to be doing next? Nope, knowing about whether or not she has a husband was apparently the best.”

Holmes reacted to the surprising question with poise and laughed it off, stating, “Nooo, I’m not married. But thank you for asking.”

Instead, Holmes shared about the true love of her life, Suri.

“I try to make our world very much an environment that’s just all about being a kid without too much of Hollywood coming into that,” she said. “And I just enjoy it.”

This example of a reputable outlet shifting the focus of an interview with a female celebrity to her relationship status and potential mystery wedding relates to a point actress Jennifer Aniston made in her essay for the Huffington Post. The Friends star highlighted the tactics of the media to focus less on a woman’s successes and achievements and more on her physical appearance and marital status. This clearly diminishes the important fact that these women are talented and successful, much like their male co-stars, and it is rare that a leading male would be hounded in the way notable female actresses are in regard to appearance and romantic life.

It seems that this scenario involving Katie Holmes is the perfect example regarding what Aniston was referring to in her essay. Her words were pertinent and poignant in For the Record.

“I used to tell myself that tabloids were like comic books, not to be taken seriously, just a soap opera for people to follow when they need a distraction. But I really can’t tell myself that anymore because the reality is the stalking and objectification I’ve experienced first-hand, going on decades now, reflects the warped way we calculate a woman’s worth.”

It is time for the media to appropriately calculate the worth of a woman, reminding everyone of her achievements as opposed to her weight loss or weight gain, her romantic life, or, as Aniston has been subjected to, talk of her childless life.

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