Kate Hudson and Matthew Bellamy were engaged until quite recently and no one can really pin down when the couple separated, because Hudson and Bellamy split up quietly and away from the public eye. In fact, it wasn't at all known that Kate and Matthew had broken up until an official announcement was made in late December, 2014, even though many sources assert that the two had ended their engagement some time earlier.
Now, months later than even that announcement, Kate Hudson has come forward, appearing to be willing to speak about the break-up and why she called off the engagement with former fiance Matthew Bellamy.
Kate Hudson Speaks Like A Philosopher
Ms. Hudson, on contemplating her relationship and eventual break-up with Muse frontman Bellamy, speaks as though the time spent since the break-up has given her a broader and more serene perspective on the relationship. The actress and daughter of Goldie Hawn spoke of karma and intentions shaping one's reality, a principal by which Ms. Hudson seems to live her life.
"We create the experiences that we want to have," Kate tells Allure. "If you want to create the painful experience, you can do that. You have the power to make [any] situation a painful or a difficult one. I want to try to create experiences that will be positive for my kids."
In Ms. Hudson's world view, happiness isn't something to possess, like a tangible object. Instead, Kate says that happiness is an evolving process that requires work and conscious thought designed to bring that state of being toward oneself.
For those that find themselves intrigued by Kate's thoughts and ways of thinking, Ms. Hudson is working on a book. The Skeleton Key actress suggests that her book is not about being perfect, or even trying to obtain perfection in one's life, but about finding what works on an individual basis. Hudson says her book will share what has worked for her and hopes her own insights will help others find out what works for them.
Kate Hudson And Matthew Bellamy: It's All About The Children
Speaking of her break-up with Bellamy, Ms. Hudson echoes the sentiments of many parents in and out of Hollywood, as far as making the transition of a break-up as painless and nontraumatic as possible for the children involved. While Kate reveals that she and Matthew have obviously grown apart, Ms. Hudson also seems hopeful of the future for her children.
"Relationships ending are painful, and you can choose to carry that or you can choose to reframe it. If Matt and I had a great relationship, we would still be together, but we chose to move on because we had different visions of how we wanted to live our lives," Kate Hudson said, as reported by E! News. "That doesn't mean, though, that we can't rebuild something that would be the best thing for the kids."
Kate has one son with Matthew, Bingham Bellamy, 4, and another son from Ms. Hudson's previous marriage to Chris Robinson. Kate's oldest son is 11-year-old Ryder Robinson.
Even through the early stages of the break-up, Kate reveals that she and Matthew have made an effort to stay connected for the children and that their goal is to make their sons feel as though they're gaining something, as opposed to feeling as though they're losing their family.
"It's been a seamless transition. Kids just want to see their parents be cool. Everybody's cool; everybody's good."
Kate Hudson stars alongside Bill Murray, Leem Lubany, and Zooey Deschanel in Rock the Kasbah, which hits theaters on October 23.
[Featured image Kate Hudson and Mathew Bellamy courtesy of Michael Buckner/Getty Images for The Hawn Foundation]