When it comes to getting a good night’s sleep, there’s nothing like a bit of peace and quiet after a hard day at work or, in this case, a hard day at school.
While most married couples in the world sleep together in their marital beds after settling their kids for the night, Julie and Gary Darby haven’t slept together for years, and not because the marriage is bad.
The Darby’s come from the school of parenting that believes kids come first in every way, and that includes sleeping with their mom instead of their dad sleeping with her.
Kai, 9, and Brayden, 10, reportedly love soccer, bike riding, and play fighting. However, when it comes to bedtime, they like nothing more than chilling with their mom and waking up next to her in the morning.
As it stands, Gary has slept alone in a single bed in the boy’s bedroom for the past five years. Strangely, it doesn’t seem to bother him.
As the caring mom told reporters, “If people think we’re spoiling our sons so be it. We know we’ve made the right choice. Kai and Brayden’s needs come first. We’ve heard it all. We’re ‘spoiling them, we’ll make them too attached, we’ve made a rod for our own backs’. Right from day one people were telling me I was doing everything wrong. But our happy, healthy sons are proof we’ve done what is right for our family.”
Julie added, “I know it won’t last for ever but I like that we can still enjoy this aspect of their childhood for as long as I can. Childhood passes far too quickly as it is. We’re in no rush.”
While some people are all for the idea of sharing a bed with their child, many are not.
Mark Layton, a coroner, said to reporters, “The advice is that it is not wrong to share a bed with your baby. But you should refrain from doing so if you are ’excessively tired’. This is very confusing.”
At the same time, sleep counsellor Dee Booth said, “I encourage parents to have their babies in their own beds as quickly as possible. That means everyone gets a good sleep and the children can be allowed to develop independently.”
Nevertheless, Julie and Gary seem to be pretty clear on the matter.
Julie concluded, “What experts said never mattered to us. I never set out with the intention to carry on this long. With us it just happened.”
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