Daughter’s Honest Letter To Porn-Watching Father Will Break Your Heart

Most of the time, the media will provide its viewership the news that is either desired by a person’s specified form of entertainment, or needed for knowledge of one’s world. Though celebrity gossip to movie reviews are entertaining, and politics to current events are necessary, sometimes articles are written so people may engage on a mental and emotional level, possibly to react and pursue action.

On that note, the best articles that probably fit this category are the ones written as “open letters.” The Inquisitr reported on such an article when Pippa Biddle, an up-and-coming entrepreneur and writer, wrote a heartbreaking letter to her sisters of when she was sexually assaulted and molested. Needless to say, Pippa’s letter pulled on heartstrings as the reader was taken to a time when she endured a moment in time that seemed like an eternity of suffering. Now, another open letter has been written anonymously from a daughter to her father. In it, the daughter explains to her father how a certain habit has affected her view of herself and her relationship with men. Her father’s habit was pornography.

The open letter was written exclusively for Think Theology and followed up by Faith It. Because of the nature of the article, being that the author opens up about personal painful experiences, the author remained anonymous. It can also be possible that the author may not actually be an established writer or maybe the author is an established writer but this type of writing is not synonymous with her other works. It doesn’t matter what the reason is because it is the content that matters.

The two sources above show the letter in its entirety. However, there are key points that may be of interest for parenting, especially for fathers. First is the father’s porn watching countered every moral lesson he tried to instill into his daughter after she found out of his habit. The concept of “do as I say, not as I do” is at play here, and to most people, it comes off as hypocritical. Here is an example of the hypocrisy as seen through the daughter’s eyes.

“Because of pornography, I was aware that mom was not the only woman you were looking at. I became acutely aware of your wandering eye when we were out and about. This taught me that all men have a wandering eye and can’t be trusted. I learned to distrust and even dislike men for the way they perceived women in this way.”

What does it mean to a daughter when she realizes her father desires another woman besides her mother? Imagine it like this. Little girls are generally flooded with princess stories that end in “happily ever after.” At a young age, the closest example to a real-life version of “happily ever after” is through a parents’ relationship. Imagine how a girl will feel if that “happily ever after” wasn’t true, that the prince found solace in a princess who is not her mother.

The daughter’s view of hypocrisy extends to when the father taught her the value of what to let into her mind and modesty. The hypocrisy also led to the daughter’s mistrust in men, a mistrust that returned full circle back to her father and even towards her husband.

“When I had friends over, I wondered how you perceived them. Did you see them as my friends, or did you see them as a pretty face in one of your fantasies? No girl should ever have to wonder that about the man who is supposed to be protecting her and other women in her life.

“I did meet a man. One of the first things I asked him about was his struggle with pornography. I’m thankful to God that it is something that hasn’t had a grip on his life. We still have had struggles because of the deep-rooted distrust in my heart for men. Yes, your porn watching has affected my relationship with my husband years later.”

In conclusion, the daughter explains how her father’s porn watching didn’t just affect his life, but the lives of everyone around him too, including herself. She even dreads the day when she has to talk to her son about pornography, how it affects relationships, and how it has a grasp on society.

Despite the agony the daughter has endured because of her father’s porn watching, she makes it clear that their relationship is more than what pornography has done to both of them. This is so important, that it is actually the first sentence in the entire letter right after the “Dear Dad.”

“I want to let you know first of all that I love you and forgive you for what this has done in my life.”

There is so much more to the letter and I oblige you to read it at either Think Theology or Faith It. For those who have read it, what are your opinions? Do you think pornography has a hold on society that affects relationships every single day? To the fathers out there, how would you feel if your daughter found out you were watching porn?

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