Similarly to most couples, Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler are putting a lot of effort into their marriage to make it work, according to US Weekly. The Laguna Beach alum opened up about their relationship, including how they haven’t been to therapy “in a minute.” Cavallari said communication is much easier said than done so she and her husband try to make a conscious effort.
“You can’t just get complacent and lazy. You have to still value and appreciate the other person. I think that when you don’t that’s probably when you start to get in trouble. And, I mean, we have our issues. Our relationship isn’t perfect. But we love each other and we work on it and we make a conscious choice to work on the relationship and I think that that’s what you just have to do.”
Kristin revealed that couples therapy saved their marriage. In June of 2013, the couple called off their engagement before getting married in Nashville. Now, the two are parents of two sons Camden, four, Jaxon, three, and daughter Saylor, who is 19-months-old.
“God, I’ll be the first to admit it — especially with three little kids! It’s hard. You have to make time for each other and try to get out of routine here and there. It’s much easier said than done. It really is difficult sometimes… We have a lot of great tools that we learned from therapy and I think that was the most beneficial part. Just learning how to communicate and walking away with some great tools, which we’ll always be able to use.”
Cavallari and Cutler, 34, recently moved to Nashville after her husband was released by the Chicago Bears. The reality star said that Cutler’s job shakeup “of course was difficult,” but the couple had always planned to move to Tennessee to raise their family. A family that is officially done growing, according to Cavallari, who said she can’t imagine having another child. Kristin assured Us Weekly that the baby fever is gone after having three babies in four years.
Kristin admitted she’s happy her husband will not have to play the bone-crushing sport for now. When Cutler was often away from home when the Chicago Bears were in season, Cavallari told Us Weekly that she sometimes missed her “alone time,” that will all change now that Cutler will be home with her and their children.
“Selfishly I’m excited for him to be safe from now on. It will be nice not to see him get hit anymore and it will be nice to have him around a lot more. And I’m just excited for this new career. He’ll be doing NFL commentary so it’s a great way for him to stay involved in football without having to get hit every week,” she told Us. “I’m very excited for the future for him.”
As for her children appearing on reality television, Kristin is waiting until they are 18-years-old and make their own decision. Cavallari said there is a lot of pressure in middle school and high school, and having a camera in your face magnifies all of it. Kristin said she hopes to keep her children as “young and innocent for as long as possible.”
Cavallari may be a mom-of-three, but her former MTV co-stars, Heidi Montag, Lauren Conrad, and Whitney Port are all pregnant with their first child.
Lauren Conrad, 31, announced she was expecting a boy in January, with husband, William Tell. Just one month later, Whitney Port, 32, announced her first pregnancy. Then in May, Heidi Montag, 30, and husband Spencer Pratt shared news over social media that they are expecting a son. Following these announcements, former Laguna Beach co-star, Talan Torriero, announced that he’s expecting a baby boy with his wife, Danielle.
Kristin offered her best parenting tips to help the girls out. Cavallari said every baby and every situation is different, so be open to advice, but at the end of the day, a mom will always know what’s best for her children. Kristin said her advice to new moms is to listen to others, but ultimately, go with your instincts.
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