Eva Mendes Talks About Heartbreaking Loss And Birth Of Daughter Amada Gosling

Eva Mendes is notoriously private about her family life, but recently, the star opened up about the recent birth of her second daughter, Amada Gosling, which was far from a perfect time in her life.

Having a baby is supposed to be the happiest time in a mother’s life, but according to Mendes it came with its own set of difficulties, as she was also mourning her older brother, who had terminal cancer.

Speaking with Latina Magazine, Mendes told the outlet about mourning the death of her brother Carlos Mendes. For Mendes, she said that her family helped her cope, and that the loss only brought her family closer together.

“Losing my brother brought our family closer, and we were already close to begin with,” she says of Carlos, who lost his battle with cancer at age 53 on Apr. 17. “So to just see everybody be there for one another and show up, I feel so lucky to have them.”

She continued.

“We had a funeral service for him and that same week I had the baby. It was really, really intense and obviously beyond heartbreaking, but also kind of beautiful.”

For Eva, the loss of her brother is still fresh, so fresh that she hasn’t processed the loss. It’s understandable, considering she’s caring for two girls while balancing her career as well.

“My older little girl is not yet 2 years old. My little one is still an infant, and right now it’s really about surviving those nights and trying to enjoy this time as much as possible with them, and start the bond between Esmeralda and Amada.”

This is the most candid Eva Mendes has been since welcoming her first daughter Esmeralda. Back in March of 2015, the star sat down with Extra to talk about appreciating her mother more with the birth of her daughter.

“Now I understand so much, my mother’s never gotten more ‘I love you so much mommy’ texts, I mean, randomly… ya, I get it now.”

Mendes sparked a bit of controversy from her comments about keeping boyfriend Ryan Gosling happy at home. At the time she told Extra, “You can’t do sweatpants … ladies, number one cause of divorce in America, sweatpants, no!”

After her comments made headlines, the actress apologized for offending anyone with a cheeky Instagram post.

“Dear favorite sweatpants, I was just kidding when I said you’re the #1 cause of divorce. Everyone knows that orange crocs are the #1 cause of divorce. Either way it was a bad joke and feel terrible if you or anyone thought I was serious. Thanks for understanding sweatpants. Sorry orange crocs.”

Even boyfriend Ryan Gosling made “fun” of the whole sweatpants debacle.

As for Ryan Gosling, he’s been just as elusive if not more, with his private life, though he has opened up just a bit about what it’s like being a new dad.

Gosling said that he’s even more of a feminist now than ever before because of his little girls. He told the Evening Standard that he’s “more evolved,” and cited that he noticed that his daughters are very evolved saying that the girls are “beyond boys immediately.”

When asked how much he sees himself as “feminine” he said 49 percent and on other days it’s 47 percent. Gosling, who credits his mother and sister as strong influences in his life said that he was brought up by the two women and had always liked women more. Ending his quote with, “They are better than us. They make me better.”

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