Sex Is Like A Cup Of Tea: The Greatest Consent Lesson Ever
Sex consent is often a misunderstood topic, and emotions tend to cloud appropriate perception. However, this sex consent explanation should simplify everything.
Although the video is socially known as “Sex Is Like a Cup of Tea,” the original is actually called “Tea Consent.” Since its debut months ago, several police departments and educational platforms have used the sex video to elaborate such a sensitive discussion.
While consent can allegedly be a tricky subject matter, this sex consent analogy takes the cake — or rather, it sips the tea. The sex video targets an audience who still has “issues” adhering to the parameters of consensual situations. The sex video states, “If you’re still struggling with consent, just imagine — instead of initiating sex — you’re making them a cup of tea.”
Who doesn’t like tea, right? Well, that’s actually the issue. Not everyone likes tea, and sometimes, preferences change. For instance, in the sex video, the narrator notes the “host” as saying, “Hey, would you like a cup of tea?” Then, the “guest” says, “Oh my god. F**k yes. I would f**king love a cup of tea. Thank you.”
At that moment, the guest probably wanted and consented to tea. But, moments later, the situation possibly changed and tea was no longer wanted. Of course, again, this “tea” example is a visual and audio replacement for “sex.”
However, you can watch the sex consent video’s explanation below, for full detail.
[Disclaimer: The following video contains mild language. Viewer discretion is advised.]
Sex Is Like a Cup of Tea
When it comes to sex, it’s not consent if it’s forced or if the other person is incapacitated. A person has to be aware in order to consent to sex. As mentioned in the example, you wouldn’t force your guest to drink tea, simply because you took the time to make it. You wouldn’t pour it down the guest’s throat while he or she sleeps, right?
Sexual consent is a serious topic. And, if it’s approached the wrong way — as in, the person isn’t fully aware the entire time — it’s not consent. And, mostly, the consent concern isn’t dealing with strangers. Unless you’re The Big Bang Theory‘s Sheldon Lee Cooper, you probably wouldn’t accept or offer “tea” from or to a stranger, respectively.
According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN), 80 percent of all rape cases are caused by someone the victim knows. Likewise, 47 percent of rapists are friends of the victim. Even less assuring, 25 percent of rapists turn out to be intimate partners.
According to RAINN, an average of 293,066 people are sexually assaulted every year. National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS), as noted by RAINN, reports the following statistics.
“There are 525,600 minutes in a non-leap year. That makes 31,536,000 seconds/year. So, 31,536,000 divided by 293,066 comes out to 1 sexual assault every 107 seconds.”
Metaphorically, per year, that means approximately 293,000 people are offered unwanted tea (sex). While this tea example might seem ridiculous, it goes to show just how equally ridiculous the sexual expectation can be when it comes to consent.
Likewise, tea (sex) isn’t something your guest wants every time he or she comes over. If he or she agreed to a cup once before, would you schedule to offer tea each time? So, why would you schedule the possibility of sex?
Probably, the only thing worse — and super creepy — would be if you were to actually show up as an unwanted guest and expect the forced host to drink your ready-made tea.
Sex consent is simple. If the person says “no tea for me, thank you,” that’s it. As the sex video narrator dictates, “Put down the tea.”
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