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Facebook Fitness Sanctimommy Maria Kang Wants To Know Why You Are Fat

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Over on Facebook, fitness “sanctimommy” Maria Kang has ruffled a few feathers with a judgmental image posted of her toned abs and three babies with a loaded caption… “What’s your excuse?”

There are so many distasteful things about Maria Kang’s Facebook body shaming and her un-apology, after the fact, it’s hard to know where to start, but many people gave it a good crack.

Sure, health is an admirable goal, but it isn’t like women aren’t constantly bombarded with messages like Kang’s — that no bar of success, parenting ability, or personal achievement means anything if you’re not doing it half naked in the world’s ugliest bikini.

It’s also pretty yucky that Kang is taking a single way of being — thin and toned — and making it the default, a binary this or that thing where either you look like her, and good, or not like her, and bad. It takes what she has and sets it as a standard, using the appearances of others and their own personal satisfaction with their looks on which to hang her point. Ew.

The inevitable backlash of women tired of being expected to look one specific way; tired of being judged, not only on their abilities and personality, but on their bodies as well — just tired from working and raising kids — provoked a response from Maria Kang on Facebook — and of course, she insinuates that anyone who didn’t appreciate the message was basically just jealous:

“I’m sorry you took an image and resonated with it in such a negative way. I won’t go into details that I struggled with my genetics, had an eating disorder, work full time owning two businesses, have no nanny, am not naturally skinny and do not work as a personal trainer.”

Kang continued:

“What I WILL say is this. What you interpret is not MY fault. It’s yours. The first step in owning your life, your body and your destiny is to OWN the thoughts that come out of your own head. I didn’t create them. You created them. So if you want to continue ‘hating’ this image, get used to hating many other things for the rest of your life.”

No, Maria Kang, what people interpret is not your fault. But exposing women again to a binary and damaging demand they look a certain way and bare their bodies is your fault, an unreasonable demand yet again being laid at the feet of women who just had babies is your fault, and introducing a negative barometer (excuses) is totally your fault.

Or to put it another way, people taking umbrage at this stuff doesn’t mean they are envious or want to look different — they’re just fed up of having to justify their choices to people who feel like their way is the only way.

Jezebel quotes one irritated woman, who says:

“Whats my excuse? I don’t need one. I have four children, I’m healthy, I’m happy, I have a man who thinks I am hotter than hell even if I am a little overweight… and I enjoy my life and the people in it. I don’t choose to spend all my time in the gym, because I just dont enjoy it. There is no law that says you have to look like that to be hot. I’m so tired of society trying to shame people for not being ‘enough,’ whether its pretty, thin, rich, smart, whatever. I beat myself up for too many years because I’m 4’10”, top heavy and curvy. Short limbs, big muscles. Finally at 43 I can say I am who I am. You are who you are. And just because Im not just like you doesn’t mean I have something to be ashamed of.”

What did you think of this Facebook fit mom’s image post and her added response? Do you agree with Maria Kang, or her objectors?

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14 Responses to “Facebook Fitness Sanctimommy Maria Kang Wants To Know Why You Are Fat”

  1. Wayne Teeger

    Who ever wrote this is article:
    1.A coward for not printing their name.
    2.Jealous
    3.Probably never done anything that took discipline or sacrifice.

    I hope making excuses works out for you (writer)

  2. Marie Ardelan

    I believe maria is arrogant and after that apology she is for sure fat shaming. Good for her that her excuses of kids I mean infants didn't get in the way of vanity. However real mothers know better to ignore this tart and spend time with their babies. Losing baby weight isn't an achievement worthy of plastering all over the news and Facebook. How is it a teenager is facing charges of bullying get this grown woman publicizes herself expecting a pat on the back and starry eyed followers?

  3. Brian Henley

    In this era of obesity and sedentary lifestyles, it's no surprise that the fat, the lazy, and the unhealthful will attack somebody who dares to take care of them-self. Such people don't like being told that health is good, and that laziness is bad. Kudos to Maria for her accomplishments and for her non-apology. I'm glad that she's making life uncomfortable for those who voraciously defend laziness.

  4. Bob Johnson

    Women especially resent others that promote health and fitness. I am a businessman who exercises 6 to 7 times a week, eats healthy, remains slim in their 50's and I have experienced resentment from others for even verbally promoting a healthy lifestyle. Sometimes the overweight are downright vicious in their attacks. They resent what they lack the willpower to do. Kudos to her! With an obesity rate of 36%, we NEED people to promote health & fitness here.

  5. Kim LaCapria

    The flaw in your logic, Brian, is that it's binary. Does one have to be any of those things to oppose women weaponizing looks? Does one have to be put down to ensure the value of others remains? I'd argue not. Why not just say something positive about herself? Why be negative about others?

  6. Kim LaCapria

    Whoever wrote this comment:
    1. Has difficulty arranging words in order;
    2. Needs to locate their scroll wheel … there's a big author credit at the bottom;
    3. Seems to believe being a writer requires neither discipline nor sacrifice.

    I hope poor reading comprehension works out for you (commenter.)

  7. Jean Yen

    Maria Kang isn't saying women need to look like her. She's saying that IF you DO want to have a body like that, than what's your excuse for not working towards it? I know plenty of women that are heavy and unhappy, but what do they do? Talk shit about people that go to the gym and then try to make themselves feel better by eating a bag of chips or donuts. If you're unhappy, DO something about it instead of making excuses.

  8. Jean Yen

    Kim LaCapria She's not trying to weaponize her looks. She's showing that she's a mother of 3 and still has time to hit the gym. We all have a different genetic makeup, and many people physically can't do certain exercises/workouts. That's fine, nobody is saying that we all need to look a certain way. I have friends that are overweight, obese even, but they're happy with themselves. On the other hand, there are others who are overweight and say things like, "What would you know, you're skinny" but no, I'm not. I have to work hard to stay in shape, with the dietary choices that I make, and I'll still never be 'skinny'. So those women are trying to take that away from me, take away all the hard work I put into it, essentially saying that anybody that is/looks fit was just blessed that way and hasn't put effort in. Is that fair? Definitely not. Give credit where credit is due.

  9. Mary Furuta

    I would say, be thankful that you are healthy and that you have the skinny genes.Regardless of your good intention posting your photo would definitely trigger some negative responses.

  10. Navarro Chamberlain

    Ok ok im sorry but who came up with this fat shaming stuff, and why is this news?

    1) She's got 3 kids and is a professional fitness model and business owner, as in its literally her job to look that way and to say those things

    2) We, as a people, are literally standing here and criticizing her for being in shape, toned, and fit.

    If you are happy with your body you shouldn't take umbrage to three words and probably should ignore it, If you want to change, take her as inspiration, but this "fat-shaming" thing has got to stop, she's not saying fat people are horrible animals, really she said three words. Sad part is, the people are really giving there excuses.

  11. Michal Mudd

    I think she's great, a real wake up call and an inspiration, and it's time more people were challenged to get up off their ever increasing duffs and MOVE!! Look at our children!! Obesity is rampant in this nation, increasing at an alarming rate and is threatening children's lives before they even reach adulthood!! Kids with diabetes, heart disease, and extreme obesity are not normal. That's child abuse, and where is it orginating, parents. 36% obesity??? Come on! Parents who can't be bothered to eat right and exercise themselves and act as proper role models are the direct cause and with each generation it's only getting worse and more expensive. Our armed forces and police and fire forces are having trouble finding recruits who can pass physical fitness tests! Health care is skyrocketing and the people we have to collectively pay for are following the general trends as well.
    Now I'm not in her shape but I'd sure like to be and I'm working on it because I can't stand to not fit clothes and to be lumpy (it's not curvy), and this is a reminder, in a world where we are literally surrounded by out of shape people in most cities of the U.S. that this is not "the status quo" and something we "fit right into." I mean, we are literally accepting that this is what the human body should feel and look like, along with the attendant aches and pains and diseases AND we are passing it along all around the world and to our next generation. What's next? The Scooter Store for grade school kids? They already have to redesign desks that have been serving us well since the days of the one room school house!!

  12. Laurel Moss

    Kim LaCapria Well, I couldn't find your name either. You should put it at the top of the article.