Jay Cutler popped a ring to baby mama and girlfriend Kristin Cavallari, but his method of doing so has come under fire in our ever-increasingly obsessed with weddings culture.
When Jay Cutler’s ring was presented to Kristin, it wasn’t by his own hand but that of the mailman. And, in a climate where “bride” is still one of the most exciting things women think they can be, the tale as recounted by the soon to be Mrs. Cutler is one that strikes many as unromantic.
(But an argument can be made that the obsession with dramatic proposals and complicated ring presentations in and of itself is quite unromantic and not spontaneous, and, if you listen to her recall, it sounds at the very least honest.)
Jay Cutler’s ring for Kristin came following a text exchange where the pair — parents to a baby boy — agreed to wed. Cavallari says that he texted her and then Cutler followed up with a ring in the mail:
“I was in the airport, leaving Chicago,. We had just spent however many days together and we were texting and somehow it came up, like, ‘Oh, shall we get married?’ … We’re like, ‘Yeah, OK.’ And then he sent my ring in the mail … So I actually had my ring sitting at home for a couple of weeks before I put it on.”
Predictably, Cosmopolitan (the pulse of all female neuroses and clinginess) followed the quote up with a single word: “wow.” The writer adds:
“Then again, I’d also expect my future husband to go all-out and plan something super fun and memorable for the proposal. It just doesn’t bode well for the future if the actual ‘will you marry me?’ part seems like an afterthought.”
(To which one might advise “get over yourself.” Or, “probably maybe don’t hold your breath, sister.”)
But Jay Cutler’s ring seems to have been offered to his intended in a moment of candor, whether or not it was carried in by a dozen doves at sunset while her favorite Adele song played or delivered by a bored USPS worker on a weekday.
Do you think Jay Cutler’s ring offer is all that matters? Are women beginning to feel entitled to a reality TV worthy drama every time someone asks them to get married?