Nia Long: Marriage Is “Not A Priority”
Nia Long and Ime Udoka may have recently welcomed their first child together, but the actress says that she and her longtime boyfriend aren’t in a hurry to get hitched.
In Essence‘s August issue, Long said that marriage is “not a priority” for her, but she didn’t discount the possibility of marriage entirely. For now, though, Long says that her family is content with things as they are. Besides, Long says that, as far as she has seen, marriage doesn’t work.
“I’ll be at home with my man, having a perfectly loving time, and I’ll see all these comments on some site about how wrong I am for not being married,” Long added in the interview. “I don’t feel less loved or less loving because I’m not married.”
Long, who once starred in The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air as Will Smith’s girlfriend, went on to say in the interview that she recently was able to reconcile with Massai Z. Dorsey, the father of her first child.
“Massai’s dad and I have had the most challenging times, and I wasn’t always sure we wouldn’t end like my mother and father,’ she explained. ‘But we’ve arrived at a place where I can truly say he’s not a baby daddy, he’s my friend, finally. He is an amazing father.”
Long credits the recent birth of her second child, Kez, as a big contributor to her change in outlook.
“I’m a lot calmer. Less clingy and demanding. When Ime has to be gone for long stretches at a time, as he had to the first few months after Kez was born, I took it as an opportunity to nest,” she said.
Do you agree with Nia Long’s perspective on marriage?
Tags : ime udoka, nia long, nia long boyfriend, nia long essence interview, nia long not getting married
Posted: July 5, 2012
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Jul 5, 2012
Whatever works for her..sometimes in love we have to make sacrifices maybe for her..the sacrifice is a piece of paper….
Jul 5, 2012
Whatever makes her happy, marriage isn't a requirement to have kids…
Jul 5, 2012
WHO are we to judge? She knows best what works for her! Don't need the paper to validate what makes HER happy. Her priorities are HERS not society! YOU ROCK NIA!
Jul 5, 2012
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Jul 5, 2012
Marriage is too overrated…she should be happy with whatever works for HER not what society thinks…many people complain its what God wants but it also says not to get a divorce …which most of society is going through..this debate can go on forever…just let her be HAPPY…
Jul 5, 2012
That and with what God wants, the word itself is overrated. There are so many different terms of marriage that any one of those methods can be considered as such. Such as a verbal agreement that the both of you will remain together forever, or hand fasting, or a wedding certificate. Indeed divorce is bad in the bible because it's considered adultery because you go from one husband to another. Marriage, in a sense, is considered life long forever commitment between a couple which states "and the two shall become one". This explains a lot.
http://christianity.about.com/od/whatdoesthebiblesay/a/marriagecovenan.htm
Jul 5, 2012
No so marriage is not over rated. Marriage is a blessing. The reason people get divorce is that they get married for the wrong reason or they are living in the moment. Marriage is more than a agreement that you will spend the rest of your life with someone. Marriage is love, trust,, accountablity, respect, security, commitment,It is never taking the other for granted,It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives,It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel
It is doing things for each other,It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience,understanding and a sense of humor,doing things not in attitude of duty or sacrifice,but in the spirit of joy,It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
Jul 5, 2012
Marriage is not for everyone so if it works for her it works for her! Marriage is a blessing but is not meant for all.
Jul 5, 2012
Marriage is not for everyone so if it works for her it works for her! Marriage is a blessing but is not meant for all.
Jul 6, 2012
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Jul 8, 2012
Yah right… specially if one is young, well known, beautiful, making enough financially and being able to live where she has the freedom to do as she wants and say what she wants.. Wonder what a woman in a third world country would think….
Jul 25, 2012
The bible states "marriage is honorable in all and the bed is undefiled." it is God's design for the structure of the family…people are choosing to live beneath their privileges when they opt out of God's plan for their lives. I disagree with what she stated and believe it is a recipe for disaster. Your marriage will work if you WORK at your marriage. Just saying.