Patti Sanger made a career setting up wealthy singles as the Millionaire Matchmaker, but says along the way she forgot to find a match for herself.
Stanger is opening up about her work as a matchmaker and the star of a Bravo reality show. She said that her biggest regret in life is not settling down so she can have a family of her own.
In a Q&A session moderated by OK!, Patti Stanger said she actually got pregnant in her 20s but chose to have an abortion.
“I didn’t have enough money, and I didn’t think it was OK to have a child and be a single parent,” she recalled. “Now look, everybody’s doing that. And I think that I didn’t find the right guy at the right time to have one with, I guess, but I don’t think I would adopt and be single.”
Stanger said the decision did not come easily, and she was filled with doubt over whether she could have children again.
“I remember this sense of paranoia,” she told Fox News, “and I was always wondering whether this would be the last time, would this be my last shot at having a child. I am all for pro-choice, but it really did make me stop and think.”
It turned out that her fears were founded. Now 52, Patti Stanger is unmarried and has no children, though she did say she is happy with beau David Krausse, who proposed to her in March.
Stanger said she once had visions of finding the right man, settling down, and starting a family, but life just didn’t work out that way for her.
“I think I would’ve eventually found a guy, settled down, got the picket fence, and I just didn’t meet the right person at the right time,” she said. “I wasn’t lucky like a lot of other people. And that’s my biggest regret, not having kids.”
She cautioned others to be content with whatever happiness they find in life.
“You really have to look at it like, you just need one and you’re done,” Stanger advised. “If you constantly keep scoping the field and looking for the biger and better deal, you’re going to be alone. You need to find some good guy, like a 7 or 8, that you can put a nice pair of jeans on, cut his hair, get him a suntan, and he’s sweet and nice and warm, makes a good living, and makes you laugh—and then call it a day.”
Patti Stanger can be seen on Millionaire Matchmaker, which airs Thursdays at 9 pm EST on Bravo.