Some incidents are so unfair that they hit a nerve with just about anyone, especially when a child is caught in the middle. One mother learned that the hard way after discovering her adopted toddler wasn’t invited to a “family only” party, and she’s understandably furious. The woman shared her story on the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K. community site Mumsnet.com, a popular space where users seek advice on personal and family dilemmas.
According to People, in her post, the woman explained that she and her husband are parents to four biological children and are now also the legal guardians of a 3-year-old relative from her side of the family. The toddler, “basically an orphan,” has lived with them for 18 months. She added that her husband’s relatives have already met the child.
Recently, she wrote, one of her husband’s family members announced a “big birthday” celebration. However, they told her husband that the 3-year-old wasn’t invited because the party was “for family only.”
“How s—– is that?” she wrote. She even noted that the gathering wasn’t small. “This isn’t a small party either. It’s about 250 people.”
Mother Is ‘Fuming’ After Her Adopted 3-Year-Old Isn’t Invited to a Relative’s ‘Family Only’ Birthday Party https://t.co/7GGgMPm64k
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“I know people throw words around, but I’m genuinely fuming,” she added. Mumsnet commenters overwhelmingly sided with her. People assured the mother that her anger was more than justified. “Of course YANBU [you are not being unreasonable]. Who could possibly exclude a 3-year-old like that???” one user replied.
Another commenter called the move “incredibly hurtful.” They wrote, “I don’t think I could ever forgive that. And also of course nobody from your household should attend the party. And be very clear as to why.” A third person agreed as well. They said, “That would be the end of my relationship with them. I couldn’t have involvement with family who excluded one child.”
Others suggested the woman double-check to ensure there hadn’t been a misunderstanding.
“Are you sure that is actually what was said to your husband, and there isn’t a communication mix up? I would message [the relative] and straight out [ask if] the 3-year-old is invited or not. If they say no, I wouldn’t be going,” one commenter wrote.
Another agreed: “I would talk to whoever is organizing it to make sure what your husband believes is correct. Then, you [will] know what to do.”
Whether it was a misunderstanding or an intentional snub, the situation has sparked a larger conversation online about what it really means to be “family.”
