Writer Marian Bull isn’t alone in stalking her old high school crush and regretting it. We’ve all done it and kicked ourselves every time. Sometimes you simply can’t help it. Especially if your high school crush broadcasts their entire life like a movie, one cannot escape their ubiquity.
In a YouTube video posted on the Huffington Post, Bull’s roommate recently posted her distressful high school crush stalking situation as Bull finds out whom her crush is dating.
Her hilarious reaction is priceless yet bittersweet as this issue — creeping on your crush — becomes more of a conflicting issue, especially among millennials. And if you’ve ever told yourself, “stalking my high school crush can’t be healthy,” then you’re absolutely right — yet you’ll do it anyway.
Researcher Tara Marshall, for Phys.org, posted an article regarding this phenomena. Getting over an ex or high school crush has always been troublesome. However, constantly seeing them on social media, namely Facebook, can really pour salt onto the wound.
And in Marian’s case, induce an emotionally ambiguous laughing/crying episode.
Perhaps she could be suffering the pseudobulbar affect (PBA)?
Marshall also found that this can lead to untold “psychological anguish.” In fact, it causes so much anguish for so many people that Facebook has been experimenting with apps which will allow users to see less of their ex-partners (or for Bull, high school crushes) upon announcing that their relationship with said individual “has ended.”
Such technology could come in handy considering that Facebook users admit to stalking at least once a week, Phys.org reports. But Bull’s reactions seem to be quite contrary to Facebook’s claim as this being “normal.”
Margaret Duffy, a professor and chair of strategic communication at the University of Missouri School of Journalism, says that these emotions depend on the user as well,
“Facebook can be a fun and healthy activity if users take advantage of the site to stay connected with family and old friends and to share interesting and important aspects of their lives. However, if Facebook is used to see how well an acquaintance is doing financially or how happy an old friend is in his relationship—things that cause envy among users—use of the site can lead to feelings of depression.”
Materialistic postings, like expensive vacations, new houses or cars, or your old high school crush, evoke the strongest sentiments of envy especially when placed under surveillance. Duffy found.
Naturally, the “I don’t quite measure up” feeling comes into effect which can eventually lead to psychological depression when regarding sensitive things like Bull’s high school crush.
“We found that if Facebook users experience envy of the activities and lifestyles of their friends on Facebook, they are much more likely to report feelings of depression,” Duffy adds.
Studies have also shown that stalkers may also engage in borderline behaviors like sending unwarranted letters and leaving gifts.
Psychological damage aside, Marian still approaches the topic in good humor, despite her tears — or lack thereof? She continues sifting through her high school crush’s model girlfriend’s Facebook.
“She’s a model and I’m just sitting here in my sh***y apartment. Our heat doesn’t even work. I bet her heat works. She lives in California she doesn’t even need heat,” Bull adds about the woman who has claimed her high school crush.
She even expresses remorse regarding the comment she made about her high school crush’s girlfriend’s “mediocre artwork” in the video.
I'm sorry I called her watercolor paintings mediocre I'm sure she's a very nice person— Xena WorrierPrincess (@marianbull) January 11, 2016
Marian can’t be alone here. Do you have anyone special you’re stalking on Facebook? How does it really make you feel?
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