Michelle Duggar is offering sex advice to new brides, telling them to be there for their men no matter what.
The matriarch of the Duggar clan and former star of TLC’s 19 Kids and Counting said she received some very good advice from her friend Gala when she was waiting to become the future Mrs. Jim Bob Duggar. Now, Michelle is passing on that advice to future brides, quoting from a republished blog post, titled “Michelle Duggar’s Marriage Advice for Newlyweds,” saying it was the best advice she was ever given.
She said Gala had been married for three years when she shared her words of wisdom with her. She explained that anyone could do the everyday things for Jim Bob, like ironing his shirt or fixing him lunch, but only Michelle could fill that one special need.
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“She told me: ‘Michelle, I know you’re so excited. You’re a bride-to-be, but some day you’ll be at this point. I’ve been married three years and I’m still happily married. I have one child, we’re expecting our second and I’m big pregnant. You’ve got to remember this. Anyone can iron Jim Bob’s shirt, anybody can make lunch for him. He can get his lunch somewhere else. But you are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it. You’re the only one. So don’t forget that, that he needs you,'” Michelle wrote.
No one knows more than Michelle Duggar how hard it can be to raise little ones. Remember, she had 19 kids. Surely, at the end of the day, she wanted nothing more but to crawl into bed and get a few hours of sleep before one of her children woke her up. However, Gala told Michelle that no matter how exhausted she was, she needed to make sure she was there for her husband to fulfill his physical needs.
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“So when you are exhausted at the end of the day, maybe from dealing with little ones, and you fall into bed so exhausted at night, don’t forget about him because you and he are the only ones who can have that time together. No one else in the world can meet that need,” Michelle quoted Gala, adding that she needed to be more than just available, she needed to be “joyfully available” for her husband.
“Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels. ‘I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.'”
Michelle said she has lived by this advice for many years and has always made it a priority to be available for Jim Bob whenever he needs her to be. She said she also passed along this advice to her daughter Jill Duggar, who married Derick Dillard last year.
“Her responsibility before God and Derick needs to come first. It’s not just me and the Lord; it’s me and the Lord and my husband,” Michelle wrote.
What do you think about Michelle Duggar’s advice? Do you agree with what she is telling new brides? Leave your comments below.
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