Josh Duggar, as well as all the other 19 Kids And Counting stars, learned certain rules from Michelle, the Duggar family matriarch. And in a new blog, Michelle is revealing what some are slamming as guidelines that taught her sons, such as Josh, how to be male chauvinists, and her daughters, such as Jessa Duggar, how to obey and be subservient to men regardless of how they feel, reported Cosmopolitan.
The Duggar family reportedly follow the Quiverfull value system, which views men as being unable to control themselves if (a) a woman refuses to have intimate relationships with her husband, or (b) a woman wears revealing attire. And Michelle’s latest Duggar family blog holds true to those tenets.
To be successful at marriage, Michelle tells wives that they must be available for their husbands 24/7. Josh and his brothers learned that their wives should not just be available, but be joyful about submitting to their desires.
“You are the only one who can meet that special need that he has in his life for intimacy. You’re it,” Michelle informs wives.
Moreover, Jessa and Jill Duggar (the two married daughters of Michelle) were taught that even if they were tired and pregnant, they needed to provide a smile and endearment to all requests.
“Be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels.”
Michelle also emphasizes that wives should always be there for their husbands to meet their needs, and they should acknowledge those needs.
So, how did that work out for those 19 Kids And Counting? Prior to the scandals that gradually accumulated for Josh, the Duggar family grew in the spotlight cast by their increasingly popular TLC show, reported Us Weekly.
If you travel in a time machine back to September, 2008, you could watch the first episode broadcast of what was then called 17 Kids and Counting. Nine seasons later, those kids, along with matriarch Michelle and patriarch Jim Bob Duggar, had a huge fan base and even bigger ratings. Advertisers hopped on the Duggar bandwagon as well, providing those all-important show sponsorship dollars, and the addition of little ones resulted in a new title, 19 Kids and Counting.
Then came the report that Josh had molested five underage girls, including several of his sisters. Jessa and Jill subsequently revealed that they were among Josh’s victims. Their brother subsequently apologized and resigned from his position at the Family Research Council.
TLC yanked all episodes of 19 Kids and Counting off the air, but cancelled it only after two months of negative publicity and fleeing advertisers.
Subsequently came the news that Josh was linked to two accounts on Ashley Madison. Duggar then apologized again for cheating on his wife, while admitting he was also addicted to viewing pornography on the Internet.
He entered a rehab for sex addiction, where he remains for now.
But how might the Quiverfull movement have resulted in this timeline of scandal for Josh and the Duggar family? Michelle hints at blaming Josh’s wife for not fulfilling his needs. The Quiverfull movement instructs all women to be “helpmeets,” reported Patheos.
“Women are created to be ‘helpmeets’ to the men in authority over them (husbands, fathers, older brothers) ~ they are to be submissive and yielding,” according to the Quiverfull guidelines.
Moreover, the Duggars agree with the Advanced Training Institute (ATI). This Christian homeschooling program provides information about sexual abuse and was created by Bill Gothard, a leader in the fundamentalist movement who subsequently was accused of being a sexual predator, reported Mic.
That program reportedly includes information to parents that tells them to ask how the victim herself could be responsible for the abuse. Examples include associating with “evil” pals, immodest attire, and indecent exposure.
What do you think of how Michelle raised Josh Duggar and his siblings? Are those teachings in part to blame for what happened? Post your comments below.
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