Caitlyn Jenner is coming out in more ways than the usual definition of the phrase. Caitlyn, who transitioned from Olympic winner Bruce Jenner to female, chatted with Ellen DeGeneres on the talk show host’s 13th season debut about topics ranging from transitioning to cross-dressing to informing her mom and ex-wife Kris about her transgender lifestyle, reported MSN.
Among the revelations that Caitlyn offered, perhaps the most unexpected was that Jenner had been only 39 when she initially contemplated making the transition to a woman. Explaining that she feels she’s chosen the right time to do so, Caitlyn also discussed how she succeeded in maintaining her privacy with regard to cross-dressing.
Jenner also shared that she continues golfing and has no regrets about changing from Bruce to Caitlyn. But what was challenging, admitted Jenner, was informing her mom and ex-wife. Kris Jenner initially didn’t understand, said Caitlyn.
“The kids get it,” noted Jenner.
But Caitlyn revealed that she feels she understands the difference between generations, even confessing that she initially was against gay marriage.
“I remember 15 years ago, 20 years ago, whenever it was that the whole gay marriage issue came up, at first, I was not for it. I mean, I thought, ‘I’m a traditionalist.’… I kind of like tradition and it’s always been a man and a woman. And I’m thinking, ‘I don’t quite get it.’ But as time goes on, like a lot of people on this issue, I’ve really changed thinking here to ‘I don’t ever want to stand in front of anybody’s happiness.’ That’s not my job.”
A topic that has been in the news recently is whether and when Jenner will begin dating. In particular, many are wondering that whether Caitlyn will decide to date men or woman.
“This is… a tremendous issue in the trans community,” pointed out Jenner. “Everybody wants to have a partner, everybody would love to have a family and for trans people sometimes that can be extraordinarily difficult to do.”
But Caitlyn feels that she will at some point seek a new partner.
“Would I like to find a partner in life to share my life with? Yeah. I’m sure I will at some point. Right now I’m just very busy doing a lot of things and kind of just getting used to where I’m at and who I’m at. As time goes on I’ll deal with that subject.”
Jenner previously addressed the question of whether she is a lesbian in her interview with Diane Sawyer, reported Entertainment Weekly.
“No, I’m not gay. I am as far as I know, heterosexual,” said Caitlyn.
Jenner pointed out that she has been married for much of her adult life.
“Are you a lesbian?” Sawyer asked.
To that question, Caitlyn explained the difference between sexuality and gender identity.
“You’re going back to the sex thing, and it’s apples and oranges. Sexuality is who you are personally attracted to. But gender identity is who you are as a person and your soul and who you identify as inside.”
Jenner and her friend Candis Cayne have a high-profile relationship, which has received even more publicity via her show I Am Cait and magazine articles. But to Ellen’s question about whether Candis is that partner, Caitlyn carefully skirted the query, reported People.
“Actually, Candis is backstage, but that’s a whole other deal,” said Jenner.
Caitlyn also emphasized that she is supporting gay marriage when Ellen asked if Jenner is ambivalent.
“It’s funny cause you’re still kind of a little not on board with it,” theorized Ellen.
Wrong, said Caitlyn.
“I’m on board. It’s going to be pretty much the law of the land. So I still feel like yeah, I’m okay with it,” Jenner added.
But what Caitlyn initially was not so relaxed about was her first face-to-face meeting with Kris Jenner, reported E! News.
The two were emotional as they discussed Kylie and Kendall Jenner as well as how they feel about each other since the transition news.
“I don’t know if we’ll resolve anything but I should probably get some things off my chest,” Caitlyn declared.
Jenner also emphasized her concern for their children.
“We’ve moved on, both of us, but I don’t want to throw all of the good times away. And for the kids, Kendall and Kylie, I don’t want tension. I don’t want to put them in a tough position. This is really very, very difficult.”
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