Heather Barwick, who was raised by two moms, has come out against gay marriage. The South Carolina woman was raised by her birth mother and her lesbian partner. Barwick has sparked intense controversy since stating that she no longer supports gay marriage and missed out on having a father.
The daughter of the lesbian couple is also a 31-year-old mother of four. Heather Barwick said that her biological mother left her birth father when she was a toddler so she could begin a new life with her girlfriend. Barwick is reportedly one of six children of gay parents who signed a letter supporting high-end fashion designers Dolce & Gabbana and their views on same-sex parenting.
Here an excerpt from a recent article Heather Barwick wrote in the Federalist.
“Gay community, I am your daughter. My mom raised me with her same-sex partner back in the ’80s and ’90s. I’m writing to you because I’m letting myself out of the closet: I don’t support gay marriage. But it might not be for the reasons that you think. It’s not because you’re gay. I love you, so much. It’s because of the nature of the same-sex relationship itself.”
The South Carolina woman raised by two moms also detailed aspects of her childhood in the article. Barwick said she grew up in a “tight knit community of gay and lesbian friends” in a liberal and “open-minded” suburb. She also noted that her mother’s lesbian partner treated her as if she was “her own daughter.”
According to Barwick, her dad was “not a good guy” and did not “come around much” after her mother moved out and began a relationship with another woman.
During her younger years, Heather Barwick was a supporter of same gay marriage.
“A lot of us, a lot of your kids, are hurting. My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost. Same-sex marriage and parenting withholds either a mother or father from a child while telling him or her that it doesn’t matter. That it’s all the same. But it’s not.”
According to Barwick, there have been lasting consequences because she was raised by a lesbian couple.
“I’m not gay, but the relationship that was modeled before me was a woman loving a woman. So I’ve struggled as an adult figuring out how to be in a relationship with my husband.”
The South Carolina woman’s change of stance on same-sex marriage ocurred after she came to terms with what she deems the “father wound” and started going to church with her husband.
During an interview with World, a Christian publication, Heather Barwick said, “It really wasn’t until I came to Christ that I felt that burden lifted off of me. And I’m not bitter. I’m not angry. I forgive my dad.”
How Heather Barwick’s two moms feel about her opposition to gay marriage and signing of the Dolce & Gabbana public letter remains unknown.
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