Jill Duggar recently revealed that she had a hard time waiting for husband Derick Dillard to come along and sweep her off her feet. In a candid new interview, Jill admitted that she was a bit boy crazy before she and Derick started courting.
As the Inquisitr previously reported, Jill Duggar’s parents are extremely strict when it comes to their daughters’ dealings with young men. Their dates must always be chaperoned; their only physical contact with their partners consists of the occasional side hug; and their parents monitor their emails and text messages during their courtships.
Many young people would find it hard to stick to these strict rules when they’re smitten with someone, but Jill’s love struggles began long before she entered into a courtship with Derick Dillard. Her parents could keep her from going out with a bunch of different guys, but they couldn’t control her thoughts or feelings.
During a recent interview with Crown of Beauty magazine, the 19 Kids and Counting star admitted that she used to have a wandering eye, and she was always on the lookout for a potential mate.
“A lot of times as a young girl I would think, ‘Well, what about that guy… or What about that guy?’ But my parents would be steadfast in encouraging me to say, ‘What kind of girl is a Godly guy looking for? He’s not looking for somebody who’s out looking at all the other guys, wondering ‘Is this the one?!'”
Jill Duggar also revealed that her strict religious upbringing didn’t make her immune from the raging hormones that affect all teens, and she admitted that it “wasn’t easy” to save herself for marriage because “you have desires that God places in your heart for a reason.” Jill turned to her mother for help when those confusing new urges started making her feel guilty and ashamed.
“When I was a teenager, there was a period of time when I was really struggling. I was talking with my Mom a lot during those couple years. Just thinking, ‘Oh my goodness, I’m just being bombarded!’ And I think hormones have a lot to do with it. But I was like ‘I am so overwhelmed! I feel like such a horrible person because all these wrong thoughts and all this stuff.'”
According to Jill, Michelle Duggar’s solution to her problem was to “Pray, pray, pray!” However, Jill couldn’t completely stop thinking about the opposite sex, so she channeled these thoughts into a constructive project that would help her plan her future — she started making a list of all the qualities she wanted in a future spouse. From the sounds of it, the list helped Jill quit imagining what it would be like to be with every attractive guy who caught her eye.
“That was really helpful for me, even in focusing as a young girl. So when I saw someone, I would think, ‘That’s not the right one for me,’ or ‘It’s not God’s timing,’ because they don’t have those character qualities.”
Whenever Jill and Derick Dillard started courting, she whipped out her list and started quizzing her future spouse to see if he had the qualities that she was looking for.
The list helped Jill deal with her urges when she was single, but things definitely got harder when Derick entered the picture. During an interview with Page Six, Jill Duggar was frank about why she and her betrothed chose to have a short engagement.
“You may not wanna push the wedding date out too far, as those natural God-given desires with too much time between engagement and marriage can make it harder to remain pure.”
Are you surprised to hear Jill Duggar confess that she was once a boy-crazy teen? And do you think it’s sad that the 19 Kids and Counting star used to feel bad about being attracted to guys and having perfectly normal urges?
[Image credit: Derick Dillard/Instagram]