The identity of the bride who wrote a scathing non-invitation letter to her abusive mom and dad, telling them that they were not welcome at her wedding has been revealed.
She is Alyssa Pearce, 23, from Adelaide, Australia, a PhD student studying Applied Linguistics.
Her husband, Alex, 28, was studying World Politics and International Relations and French, according to the Daily Mail.
She posted the non-invitation letter to the social networking site Reddit about five months ago, ahead of her wedding, but it went viral in February when a radio station found it.
The letter went viral with thousands of shares, and many sending messages of support.
“I was astounded. I saw that a radio station or two had dug it out of the woodwork a few days ago but I did not think that it would get to be this big.
“Especially since it’s been nearly 6 months since the photo was uploaded. I didn’t even think much of it when I wrote the de-invitation, I showed it to family and friends who applauded and asked me to post it on an online forum.”
In her original post to Reddit, Alyssa said that she ran away from home at the age of 16 to escape her abusive parents. She claimed that she had a difficult relationship with her father, insinuating that the abuse originated from her father’s disappointment that she was not born a boy.
“Mostly physical and emotional [abuse], but there was also sexual abuse in the form of touching and watching me while naked.”
She said that when they learned that she was getting married, her “narcissistic parents” began demanding to be invited to the wedding despite the fact they had not been in contact with her for about seven years since she left home.
In an interview with The Daily Mail, she said that after a long conversation with her grandparents, who tried to persuade her to invite her parents, she decided it was time to take a stand on the matter. In response to their demand for an invitation, she wrote a scathing non-invitation letter
“I went home and wrote my parents the de-invitation. I opened up a word document, found the nicest calligraphy font I could, loaded up the printer with some of the lovely parchment paper left over from the other invitations, and wrote.
“I then found a nice matching envelope, addressed it with a fancy gold pen, and posted it. I mean, if you’re going to send someone a memorable ‘stuff you,’ you may as well go all-out.
“Writing and sending that letter made me feel so much better about all the stress I’d been under. Not only had I refused to allow myself to be bullied into something I didn’t want, but I also took a stand.
“While it may have been childish and immature, it made me feel as if I’d taken back power from them.”
She then uploaded a picture of the letter online.
Responding to questions on Reddit, Alyssa, whose Redddit name is SktizoCat, said the letter was the first time she was contacting her parents of her own accord. According to Alyssa, the little communication she has had with her parents over the years was through her grandparents.
Alyssa said that many members of her family and her husband’s supported her decision to not invite her parents. Many Reddit users also supported her action.
“Oh you are complete bad*** well done.”
“I love you. I love the anti-invite. I love your bada**ery. Congratulations! Hope your wedding is beautiful!”
“I love you. That’s incredible. You go.”
After she sent the non-invitation letter, she posted an update to Reddit, saying that her grandparents called her and expressed concern about who would walk her down the aisle. Her grandfather showed her a message on his phone from her father blaming her grandparents for her actions and saying, “Our relationship is now irreconcilable.”
Her father even threatened court action against her grandfather and said, “I don’t want to see you again near my business/house/family.”
Her grandfather then told her that due to the situation he could no longer walk her down the aisle. But Alyssa had made up her mind to walk herself down the aisle.
Alyssa and her husband Alex, both from Australia, are now married. They went to Thailand for their honeymoon. In her latest update on Reddit she said she did not allow the absence of her parents and grandparents to ruin her big day.