Study: Men Actually Don’t Know What Women Want

A new study has found out something that should shock everyone to the core…men have real difficulty in figuring out if a female is interested in them!

Most women who have spent any amount of time in the single scene (or on the planet) know that there seems to be two types of men out there, those that think they are God’s gift to women and those who can’t tell that a female is even slightly interested in them.

The study examined 100 men and women by “speed cycling” them through meetings with 5 members of the opposite sex. Before the excersise began the participants all rated how they feel about their own level of attractiveness and their desire for a “one night stand” was determined. For the exercise the participants rated their own attractiveness and were assessed for their desire to have a short-term sexual encounter. After each conversation the participants were asked about how it went and whether they perceived that the member of the opposite sex wanted to engage in a little extra curricular activity.

The results, to be published in the upcoming issue of Psychological Science, were pretty clear:

  • Men who want a one night stand were more likely to overestimate how much the woman wanted him.
  • Men who believed they were attractive also believed the women wanted them, while the one’s who women were actually attracted to didn’t think this way.
  • The better looking a woman was to the man, the more likely he was to overestimate her interest in him.
  • Most women underestimated men’s desire for them

“There are two ways you can make an error as a man,” study author Carin Perilloux, a psychologist at Williams College in Williamstown, Mass., told Health Day. “Either you think, ‘Oh, wow, that woman’s really interested in me’ — and it turns out she’s not. There’s some cost to that,” such as embarrassment.

Men also make the mistake of not realizing that a female is into them.

“He misses out on a mating opportunity. That’s a huge cost in terms of reproductive success,” Perilloux explained.