Dan and Jenna Haley have turned every pregnant mom’s nightmare into a celebration of their unborn child by creating a “bucket list” for baby Shane. Although doctors do not believe Shane will survive after being born, the Haley family rejects abortion and believes they need to create a fulfilling life for even one who has yet to be born.
In a related report by The Inquisitr, one woman tried to use the GoFundMe crowdfunding website in order to finance her abortion since she believed a baby would not fit her party lifestyle. While the idea was very controversial, GoFundMe shut down her abortion fundraiser after the public outcry.
The story of baby Shane’s bucket list began with a car accident. Although no one was injured, the parents decided to have their baby checked out by the doctors just in case. Dan Haley says at first they merely thought there was some fetal bleeding, but then, the bad news came.
“I had a feeling that something wasn’t right. I called her and I could tell she had been crying by the tone of her voice when she answered. Through a cracking voice she just said ‘I’ll be home in a few minutes and I have something to tell you.’ She got home and was balling her eyes out and I remember her showing me some new ultrasound pictures and she said that’s our baby. I could see that something wasn’t normal about his head and she showed me the note the doctor gave her. All it said was ‘anencephaly.'”
Anencephaly is the malformation of the baby’s skull and brain within the womb, and most babies with anencephaly live no more than 24 hours. But shock turn to resolve when they realized what this meant.
“It was in the car that day that we both agreed that God was blessing us with such a special baby for a reason greater than we could understand and that no matter how hard it was to feel the way we did, that we had to keep the faith and believe in His plan for our lives. We wanted people to never question how proud we were to be Shane’s parents and that we were thankful and felt blessed that God chose us to bring him into the world. Shane is our son and we are so proud of him and he’s had such a positive impact on the lives of so many people that have heard his story.”
So the Haley family created a bucket list that they would complete within nine months before baby Shane was expected to be born. The list of adventures included some of the couple’s favorite childhood events and places.
“Most families wait until their baby is born to start making memories and traveling to places with them,” Dan said. “We understood what it was and knew that our time with our son could be very limited, so we wanted to make the most of the time that we had with him.”
The Haley family completed their unborn child’s bucket list on September 6 and Shane is due on October 12. Even though their bucket list adventures are over, Mr. Haley says they continue to make their remaining time together special. “We truly value every minute that we have with our son,” he said, “and we thank God every night for blessing us with such a special little boy.”
The Haley’s have been sharing updates on their Facebook community Prayers For Shane. Here is a list of all the adventures the three completed together.
- Cape May County Park Zoo in Cape May, NJ
- Philadelphia Zoo
- Adventure Aquarium in Camden, NJ
- 9/11 memorial in New York City
- Statue of Liberty
- Empire State Building
- Times Square
- Central Park
- Strasberg Rail Road near Lancester, PA
- Beach in Wildwood, NJ
- Beach in Cape May, NJ
- Rehoboth Beach in Delaware
- Dewey Beach in Delaware
- Phillies game
- Philadelphia Flyers game
- Meet the Phillies Meet
- Flyers (including Claude Giroux)
- Dad’s Delco league baseball games (championship)
- Ocean City, MD boardwalk and games (old time photo)
- Rides at the pier in Wildwood, NJ (including Ferris wheel)
- Shrine of St. John Neumann in Philadelphia
- Shrine at St. Rita church in Philadelphia
- Geno’s Steaks in Philadelphia
- Spruce Street Harbor Park in Philadelphia
- Zac Brown Band concert
- Linvilla Orchards in Media, PA
- Uncle Jim’s baseball game at Penn State
- Ashbridge Memorial Park in Bryn Mawr, PA
- Cape May Lewes Ferry in Lewes, DE
- Franklin Institute in Philadelphia