According to a recent study carried out by Relationships Australia, modern-day women are demanding more and more sex from their boyfriends or husbands, and this is putting men under increasing pressure to perform.
Grant Pearson, who headed up the research, spoke to the Daily Telegraph about his findings.
“We are finding more women are demanding sex and men are being put under pressure. Women feel far more entitled, we’ve now got women coming in saying ‘he isn’t giving me enough sex’ that is standing out to us.”
Pearson’s revelations come as Australian Prime Minister Tony Abbot introduces tax-payer funded sex lessons as part of the relationship counseling scheme.
According to Social Services Minister Kevin Andrews, a former marriage educator, it’s no surprise that this is an issue for couples. “Relationship educators often report that couples have different expectations about intimacy and sex,” Mr. Andrews said.
Relationships Australia is just one organization running group sessions on “sex and desire” under the scheme which helps couples build intimacy in the pursuit of learning how to politely ask for more sex in the bedroom.
The five-hour course revealed that it’s woman and not men who are complaining about the frequency and quality of the sex they get. Due to this, men are under real pressure to deliver the goods, as Grant Pearson explained.
“We are finding a lot more women demanding sex and men being put under pressure. Women feel far more entitled. I think the men are reacting like anyone would. We’ve now got women coming in saying ‘he isn’t giving me enough sex’. That’s standing out to us. It’s when that stuff doesn’t happen when there’s a problem. It’s not people are holding it back to be vengeful. They just don’t feel like it.”
Minister Andrews added that the recent study suggested that for many woman intimacy leads to sex while for men sex leads to intimacy,
“Relationship educators often report that couples have different expectations about intimacy and sex. Education and counselling programs enable couples to talk about and clarify their expectations. This can help them to build stronger, stable relationships. The Stronger Relationships program helps couples to discuss differences about a range of issues, including finances, communication and parenting, that can undermine relationships.”
Relationships Australia’s “Sex and Desire — Group Program” promises to help couples explore the issues in a “safe and confidential environment.”
And the program is a great one, as it tries to help couples to find out how sexual desire can impact on their relationship and learn how to communicate those needs properly to their partner.