According to Susan Quilliam, the author of the updated version of “Joy of Sex”, middle-aged woman who are divorced are free to have “full and active sex lives” not enjoyed by a previous generation.
Quilliam, who recently rewrote the “Joy of Sex” to commemorate its 40th anniversary, alleges that women can now sleep with whoever they want following the breakdown of their marriages, without being judged for their actions.
Quilliam, who trained as a psychologist, is herself divorced from a marriage which spanned over 20 years. At the respectable age of 63, she says that woman can experiment with men in bed openly:
“In theory, I can, if I so wish, go out and sleep with somebody tonight without opprobrium, without being told I’m a slut,” she said at the Cambridge University’s Festival of Ideas.
She continued to talk about the privilege in status enjoyed by middle-aged woman in 2013:
“Well there are some people who will still think I’m a slut, but largely we are lucky. Us women in 2013, we are lucky as no other women before us. We are lucky post pill and post the Abortion Act to be able to know and decide where, what, who, how and also whether and where to look for sex – and where things are and what to do with them.”
Quilliam was not the original author of the controversial book, which was first published in 1972. She said about her new version of the book: “Compared to our mothers’ and grandmothers’ generations we have more choice. More choice to have a relationship or not. The choice of whether to have a short term relationship of just a few hours or a long term one.”
When she was asked if she was currently in any type of relationship with a man, sexual or otherwise, she declined to comment.
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