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Mayim Bialik Practices Attachment Parenting: Good God! No! Why? Shut Up

Mayim Bialik attachment parenting

 

Oh my, God, you guys. That girl from The Big Bang Theory, Mayim Bialik? I just heard she practices this thing called attachment parenting!

Much of the news over the past few days has been directed at Mayim Bialik’s practice of “attachment parenting” (sometimes stylized as “AP”). Aside from being an actress, she’s also a pretty avid parenting blogger and often shares details from the AP practice on her blog, Kveller.

Attachment parenting is called a controversial practice by some and involves bonding through things like co-sleeping, breastfeeding for longer than prudes are comfortable with, and “baby wearing,” which is exactly what it sounds like.

And because attachment parenting is easily the worst thing we can imagine (read: Sarcasm), a lot of people flame Bialik for her openness and honesty on the issue.

Now before we get too far into this article, I should add a disclaimer. I’m not a parent, and I’ve never felt particularly moved to do any research into parenting styles. My interaction with children is pretty much limited to making funny faces at them in the grocery store, and I once held a conversation with a young mom about Dr. Spock for 20 minutes before realizing that we weren’t talking about Star Trek.

I could point to a number of studies that outline the benefits of attachment parenting and why it’s really not as crazy as it might sound, but that’s a little bit out of my wheelhouse. Having discussed the practice with a handful of parents in my social circle and trusted colleagues over at The Parenting Patch, I think I’m adequately equipped with the expertise to boldly say: Who cares?

The Patriot Act, a long-controversial set of ambiguous US security laws, has been abused to its zenith, with politicians now weakly declaring that it’s constitutional to listen in on your phone conversations to fight terrorism because: Insanity. Worse, this is like the fourth major scandal facing the current administration in just one month. Remember when a presidential scandal simply boiled down to some Oval Office kink? Those were the days.

Syria and surrounding regions have erupted into a massive religious civil war that is claiming thousands of lives, and just might be the “total war” scenario that experts have feared for decades. This region-ending conflict could send the Middle East to the stone age, nevermind the incalculable loss of human life that has, and will, occur.

Last time I checked, the Obama administration is still “secretly” engaged in an unnamed conflict in Pakistan, using drones to bomb civilians.

Kanye West and Kim Kardashian named their daughter “North West.”

My point? There are plenty of other things to spend you angry energy on. You know, things that actually matter. Attachment parenting and Mayim Bialik might wig you out a little bit, but how about admitting the truth? I’ll start.

I know nothing about attachment parenting, and neither do you. And I’m not mad about it. Do you know why? Because who cares, that’s why.

Cut Mayim Bialik some slack. She loves her kids, and she doesn’t starve them or hit them. That should be enough, honestly.

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18 Responses to “Mayim Bialik Practices Attachment Parenting: Good God! No! Why? Shut Up”

  1. Heather Coomes

    To each their own.. no one should tell a parent how to raise their kids, unless of course they are abusing them.

  2. Robert Dold

    3 yrs old is too old for breastfeeding. Mom is doing it because it feels sooo good having her tits sucked. They should be sucked on by an adult not her 3 yr old.

  3. Suzi Satterfield Simola

    Wow. Really? I don't breastfeed. It's not my bag. However, your insistance that it's a sexual thing is a western societal perception, not a parenting thing. In other parts of the world, it's exceptionally common for breastfeeding to continue even past 4 years of age.

    I'm inclined to agree with the author. We really have much bigger problems in the world than what Mayim Bialik does with her breasts.

  4. Gail Dennis

    OK, so we have given a fancy sounding label to a style of parenting that was and is practiced in many cultures where children are loved and are the heartbeat of the family. Must be an American thing…whine about minutiae and ignore the major screwups presided over by the duly elected members of the government. Besides, since when is anyone wanting to raise secure and healthy children a need for commentary..sorry, my bad we just usually let them veg out in front idiot box watching idiotic politicians, asinine pundits, and pseudo-reality shows.

  5. Brandilynn Metts

    The first 4 years of a childs life is known as the "crucial bonding period"..which is particularly crucial during the first two years. It greatly influences how a child will form and react to relationships all throughout their life. In this highly technological and social-media driven era..more parents are spending greater amounts of time bonding with their gadgets n gizmos than they are with their children. As a result, more children are being diagnosed with Severe to Moderate Attachment Disorders. With that being said, I am glad that this actress/mother is making time apart from her career to focus on bonding with her child!!! :)

  6. Gail Dennis

    Really Robert, only an uninformed person with a perverted view would equate breastfeeding with sexual gratification. In many countries, breastfeeding continues until the child reaches school age. That is one way in which children are able to get adequate nutrition. It is only here many people think breastfeeding should stop as soon as possible. I practiced AP with my two children, only my oldest is 20 and the youngest is 16, back then we did not call it AP. I breastfed both until age two, they slept with me so that everyone could get a good night's sleep. They grew up healthy and are well balanced, secure, and happy people. You see, what we now call AP is how I was raised…but then as my friends keep pointing out, I am not American. Different values I guess.

  7. Yvonne Ciullo

    I have to agree that 3 years old is too old for nursing. But I would disagree on the reason of yours Bob. Nursing is in no way a sexual act. many women feel very strongly about it for many different reasons. I didn't nurse. Wasn't for me, but I won't judge her for her style of parenting. There are far worse ways to raise your child. But I would agree that 3 is way too old

  8. Katherine McGuire

    Robert Dole your a fucking moron!!!!! There is a complete difference between breast feeding and someone sexually playing with your breasts, breast feeding HURTS no joke your body actually makes your nipples go numb by the first month of breast feeding so that way your no longer in pain. Your a sick fuck its NATURAL women use to breast feed till children were 3 or 4 and no one cared. Would I do it? Nope but it sure as hell ain't sexual!

  9. Pat Duran

    I nursed 2 out of 3 of my children. The oldest one I did not get the support needed as a first time mom. With the other 2 children, I nursed one child 'til 9 months and the youngest weaned herself at 11 1/2 months. I couldn't see nursing until 3 years old. Before the youngest child was born, the older 2 would get their pillow and blankets and make a pallet on the floor next to us parents. Once the youngest one came along, the older 2 children stay in the room. For a while all 3 kids shared a room.

  10. Ashley Hunter

    I have three kids which two I breastfed till one and none I am breastfeeding now I no it does not feel sexual if anything its the most wonderful bonding I love looking into my little guys face an I feel like it helps babies no that mommy loves them with all there hearts and THE ONY REASON I DONT NURSE LONGER is bc I have active kids who wanna run n play and the boobies does follow u are a damn fool to think a mom would feed bc it felt good to her

  11. Ashley Hunter

    Meant a ap parent I co sleep so what would u rather I feed my baby a chicken nugget or give them the most perfect milk there is I am not knocking formula I use it as well but still u r a loon

  12. Daisy Fung

    Children should learn to feed themselves by the age of three; they already have teeth to chew on solid food. Still breastfeeding them at that age seems unnecessary. Wouldn't that just make the child unwilling to become independent. I imagine that once something they deem unpleasant happens, the child would just rely on the mother.
    There is nothing wrong with kids wanting to sleep with their parents. I still crawl into bed with my parents sometimes. It's just comfortable and it feels safe.

  13. Bethany Hall

    Actually extended breastfeeding creates independence as the child feels secure in their relationship with their parents.
    teeth have nothing to do with being able to eat. the moto when weaning is "food before one is just for fun" and after that breastmilk still provides 60% of critical vitamins and nutrients for toddlers.
    also they don't nurse as often as a toddler as they do as a baby. dd is nearly 2 and only nurses 2 times a day, unless she's sick.

  14. Shannon Miller Lehman

    She is also divorced. Not saying it is the cause, but, having your kids sleep with you because you can't part with them for a few hours of uninterrupted sleep with your spouse can't be a good thing.