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School Suggests 13-Year-Old Get Breast Reduction Surgery To Stop Bullying

School suggests 13-year-old get breast reduction surgery

Moline Acres, MO — A mother is outraged that her daughter’s school suggested the 13-year-old undergo breast reduction surgery in order to stop being bullied.

Tammie Jackson said her daughter, Gabrielle, has been sexually harassed and bullied by other students because of her large breasts. Understandably upset, Jackson called the Riverview Gardens School District and was told that her daughter had two options — change schools, or get surgery.

Jackson said, “The lady on the switchboard said they could transfer my daughter and said her boobs were so large she’s gonna always get teased. And then she told me the only suggestion that she could make is for my 13-year-old daughter to get a breast reduction.”

Jackson added, “It makes me feel like now you are telling me it’s my fault, it’s God’s fault the way he made her. [The school should] talk with the kids, let them know, you know, people’s bodies are changing, everybody’s body is different but God made us all great.”

Superintendent Clive Coleman said school officials are investigating Jackson’s claim, but he believes it was a “product of miscommunication, interpretation of information.” Students at Central Middle School, however, are being counseled on how to resolve bullying issues.

Jackson said her 9-year-old son, Elijah, has also been bullied because of the way he looks. Elijah has a rare heart condition and he is often made fun of because of his surgical scars, she said.

Disturbingly, more and more teenagers are undergoing surgery in order to prevent being bullied. Last year, 14-year-old Nadia Ilse underwent an otoplatsy, a surgery to pin back the ears, because kids at school teased her for having “elephant ears.” According to the Huffington Post, nearly 219,000 surgeries had been performed on 13- to 19-year-olds, with otoplasties being the most popular.

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99 Responses to “School Suggests 13-Year-Old Get Breast Reduction Surgery To Stop Bullying”

  1. Ron Kerzner

    Taking the easy way out to submit ti stopping the bullies.The doesn't want to handle the situation Then wonder why this generation has no respect to the laws that confront them. Are the going to pay for this operation/ How are they going to handle other bulling situations?

  2. Diana Montero

    This is because the children that are doing the bullying HAVE EXTREMELY FUCKED UP PARENTS!

  3. A J Jackson Gum

    Whatever happened to people having a backbone? The school is wrong for suggesting the girl transfer or get surgery, but, c'mon, teach kids to toughen up, already. There is no right not TO get your feelings hurt.ht

  4. Wendy LeFevre

    I am so glad my daughter was smart & at the age of 16 went & got her G.E.D. I thought they wanted to put an end to bullying, so you think at a school they would teach others not too. I guess our money is more important to keep a football team going then all the other students w/ their schooling. Here is a thought….make football a part of another organization instead of a school activity. Keep the money for education not sports. Make the parents of said children pay to be part of the other organization. Then use the money for better educating the children.

  5. Wendy LeFevre

    I am so glad my daughter was smart & at the age of 16 went & got her G.E.D. I thought they wanted to put an end to bullying, so you think at a school they would teach others not too. I guess our money is more important to keep a football team going then all the other students w/ their schooling. Here is a thought….make football a part of another organization instead of a school activity. Keep the money for education not sports. Make the parents of said children pay to be part of the other organization. Then use the money for better educating the children.

  6. Michele Perry

    SOMEONE else needs surgery! The person who said this needs to have a BRAIN inserted in their stupid head! I would be outraged, too! Geesh!

  7. Michele Perry

    SOMEONE else needs surgery! The person who said this needs to have a BRAIN inserted in their stupid head! I would be outraged, too! Geesh!

  8. Michele Perry

    SOMEONE else needs surgery! The person who said this needs to have a BRAIN inserted in their stupid head! I would be outraged, too! Geesh!

  9. Therese Caserta

    Recommending surgery to the mother of this girl was a completely inappropriate comment. However, the school should NOT bring God, Jesus, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster into the school either.

  10. Therese Caserta

    Recommending surgery to the mother of this girl was a completely inappropriate comment. However, the school should NOT bring God, Jesus, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster into the school either.

  11. Therese Caserta

    Recommending surgery to the mother of this girl was a completely inappropriate comment. However, the school should NOT bring God, Jesus, or the Flying Spaghetti Monster into the school either.

  12. Gina Carter

    You are Beautiful the way you are, God made you that way…so don't let anyone tell you other wise, and don't change for anyone…if they don't like you being at that school, then maybe they all need to leave, not you…and the so…called teachers and so…called principles need to stand behind the victims, not the bullys, then all of our schools would be better off, get rid of everyone else who makes fun of students for being who they are, and who God made…Should have never took God or prayer out of the schools, shame on the ones who did, cause your judgement is coming:)

  13. Gina Carter

    You are Beautiful the way you are, God made you that way…so don't let anyone tell you other wise, and don't change for anyone…if they don't like you being at that school, then maybe they all need to leave, not you…and the so…called teachers and so…called principles need to stand behind the victims, not the bullys, then all of our schools would be better off, get rid of everyone else who makes fun of students for being who they are, and who God made…Should have never took God or prayer out of the schools, shame on the ones who did, cause your judgement is coming:)

  14. Gina Carter

    You are Beautiful the way you are, God made you that way…so don't let anyone tell you other wise, and don't change for anyone…if they don't like you being at that school, then maybe they all need to leave, not you…and the so…called teachers and so…called principles need to stand behind the victims, not the bullys, then all of our schools would be better off, get rid of everyone else who makes fun of students for being who they are, and who God made…Should have never took God or prayer out of the schools, shame on the ones who did, cause your judgement is coming:)

  15. Veneta Britt

    This school needs education, as the remarks made by the switchboard operator are totally inappropriate and they could be taken as sexual harrassment from an adult toward a child…I have large breasts and have had problems all my life due to inappropriate remarks, looks and sexual harrassment…this school needs to take action so that the students know that bullying and sexual harrassment are not acceptable…For a school district employee to make the type of remark reported is causing a hostile enviorment not only for the child but also the mother and might cause them to be sued…To imply that it is something that is the mothers or daughters fault and that she should undergo surgery is more than insulting…Wno is going to pay for it and why shoul a develping teen be expected to undergo surgery to escape bullying…I have not had "corrective" surgery on my breasts and I am 51 who in their right mind says a 14 year old should do so?

  16. Veneta Britt

    This school needs education, as the remarks made by the switchboard operator are totally inappropriate and they could be taken as sexual harrassment from an adult toward a child…I have large breasts and have had problems all my life due to inappropriate remarks, looks and sexual harrassment…this school needs to take action so that the students know that bullying and sexual harrassment are not acceptable…For a school district employee to make the type of remark reported is causing a hostile enviorment not only for the child but also the mother and might cause them to be sued…To imply that it is something that is the mothers or daughters fault and that she should undergo surgery is more than insulting…Wno is going to pay for it and why shoul a develping teen be expected to undergo surgery to escape bullying…I have not had "corrective" surgery on my breasts and I am 51 who in their right mind says a 14 year old should do so?

  17. Veneta Britt

    This school needs education, as the remarks made by the switchboard operator are totally inappropriate and they could be taken as sexual harrassment from an adult toward a child…I have large breasts and have had problems all my life due to inappropriate remarks, looks and sexual harrassment…this school needs to take action so that the students know that bullying and sexual harrassment are not acceptable…For a school district employee to make the type of remark reported is causing a hostile enviorment not only for the child but also the mother and might cause them to be sued…To imply that it is something that is the mothers or daughters fault and that she should undergo surgery is more than insulting…Wno is going to pay for it and why shoul a develping teen be expected to undergo surgery to escape bullying…I have not had "corrective" surgery on my breasts and I am 51 who in their right mind says a 14 year old should do so?

  18. Candice Roark

    This is showing how shallow we are raising our children to be, and we are not showing them how to be compassionate to each other. We need to get our children in hand and do a little discipline. If my kids treated other like this I know they would be in huge trouble.

  19. Candice Roark

    This is showing how shallow we are raising our children to be, and we are not showing them how to be compassionate to each other. We need to get our children in hand and do a little discipline. If my kids treated other like this I know they would be in huge trouble.

  20. Candice Roark

    This is showing how shallow we are raising our children to be, and we are not showing them how to be compassionate to each other. We need to get our children in hand and do a little discipline. If my kids treated other like this I know they would be in huge trouble.

  21. Justine Mulatto Hertwig

    I don't understand why school officials aren't being held responsible for this bullying. where are the parents of these bullies? why aren't they being scolded by the administrators for having asshole kids? why aren't the bullies getting in school suspension or expulsion? so effed up!

  22. Justine Mulatto Hertwig

    I don't understand why school officials aren't being held responsible for this bullying. where are the parents of these bullies? why aren't they being scolded by the administrators for having asshole kids? why aren't the bullies getting in school suspension or expulsion? so effed up!

  23. Justine Mulatto Hertwig

    I don't understand why school officials aren't being held responsible for this bullying. where are the parents of these bullies? why aren't they being scolded by the administrators for having asshole kids? why aren't the bullies getting in school suspension or expulsion? so effed up!

  24. Lisa Lisakay

    They bully at all school my granddaughter was bully alot just not by the kids also by the teachers…this is sick!

  25. Lisa M Dwyer

    The big boobs aren't on her, they're the ones running the school.

  26. Deanna Payne

    I am so sorry this beautiful young girl has to go thru this.the schools and parents need to stop the bulling.god made her body this way why is being told to have a reduction is beyond me.she is only 13 she just tuned a teenager.may god bless you.and keep your head up.you are beautiful the way god made you.

  27. Heather Hyden

    Ditto Veneta… Same here I always got harrassed and nobody would help me… Eventually it resulted in me having to get into a couple of fights and dress in baggy clothing just to get them to leave me alone >.< The school system doesn't care unless your family has some social standing or molah… At leas that's how it was up here…

  28. Dennis Aldis

    Believes it was a product ofmiscomunication, interpretation of information? How stupid must he think someone is? I couldn't mistake any of that for someting else. The mother needs to file sexual harrassment charges against the school for that and allowing the bullying. I know it might be hard to deal with, but unfotunately it will happen. But there needs to be some way to curtail it at least somewhat. But the response is totally inapropriate. But both sides need to do some work, the mother helping her daughter deal with it, the school administration dealing with the other students.

  29. Carolyn Quilliams Aldridge

    The school personnel who suggested reduction surgery should be charged with harrassment too!

  30. Starrlynn Trent

    Wow!! Lets as adults teach the bullies how to be better at it! Wth is wrong with people today? AJ Jackson there's nothing wrong with a backbone, but the problem with that is when the kid who is being bullied has enough and punches the bully right in the mouth they are the ones that get in trouble!! Ur not helping things either. Yes people should have a backbone, but kids shouldn't have to put up with being bullied either!

  31. Monica J Haynes

    How about it's social unacceptable to comment on persons body and the bully's be punished that is what the law states ..my son got sexual harassment in 5th grade for telling a girl she was cute and he would carry her book bag he lingered at her locker to long and was suspended for 2 days "FOR REAL"

  32. David J. Alamia Sr.

    Classic example of punishing the victim. I say after the bullies get two warnings have the parents take responsibility. Suspend the bullies until parents take control. If that don't work tell the bullies to find another school not the victims.

  33. Apple Thompson

    There will always be jerks in this world. That person who suggested the breast reduction is prob jealous she didn't have BOOBS! LOL! People are haters! I can't believe all the bullying. Had them as a kid as well. I took most of it as a compliment bc they gave me attention. LOL! LOVE IT!

  34. Lauren Lagergren

    This is how it's done in Australia, they have clubs that children and teens can join. It is also done this way throughout Europe. My husband has relatives in Sweden and they said if you wanted to do sports, you joined a club. I've been thinking this way for a long time; what happened to emphasis on learning and inspiring kids to want to learn?

  35. Heather Hyden

    First off as an adult it is our job to protect our children or other peoples children while in our care.. Second off.. I have seen what happens with children who are told to get a backbone.. IT ends up very badly!

  36. Kiya Arnold

    toughen up about sexual harassment? be for real? what pple need to teach their kids is that the only reason they go to school is to get an education, stop worrying, touching and picking on other pple

  37. Lauren Lagergren

    Toughen up? This has nothing to do with "hurting someone's feelings" and everything to do with being able to go to school and get a basic education in a safe environment.

  38. Cherie A. Daniel

    Are you f*cking kidding me, Gum???? It's not a big nose or ears. It's not her clothes or shoes. It's her BREASTS! No need get backbone. Need to sue school. Big win for family.

  39. Cherie A. Daniel

    What'er you like, 10 yrs. old??? This discussion is for adults so go away.

  40. Stacey Lemay

    The parents of these children who are bullying other children should be held accountable on some level cuz they should be teaching their kids not to bully. Too many kids have taken their lives over being bullied and it needs to stop.

  41. Apple Thompson

    Sad part is, this dude, Alex is in a relationship and wants to see this child's breasts. Dude, you're sick.

  42. Beuteefulone Lugo

    Awww, lil man was being a gentleman. I can see if he was following her or touching her…he only said that she was pretty? Thats sad!

  43. Beuteefulone Lugo

    She shouldn't have to "toughen" up, parents need to teach their children manners and respect for others!

  44. Lyuba Allenivna Marchenko

    Feck that suka! That girl doesn't need any surgery; that so-called lady on the switchboard needs a heart and a brain.

  45. Lois Payette

    What the heck is wrong with the school administrators. Get surgery to stop bullying? Just who do they think is going to pay for this surgery? Not the insurance, supposing they even have insurance, because it is considered "cosmetic" surgery and not warranted. Are they just to lazy to get into the trenches and teach these kids not to bully others or are they afraid of the kids? How hard is it to tell a group of kids that teasing and making sexual comments are against the law, bullying is against the law and maybe sending a note home to parents telling them that they could be held responsible for what their kids do! Do they even know the damage it does to kids to be told to transfer to another school or get surgery? What it does to their grades? Honestly, parents you should be taking recorders to school and taping everything that they tell you when it comes to bullying and your kids. Than get a lawyer and sue the heck out of the district! I would!

  46. Nicki Fitzgerald

    This is crazy. Schools are going over board these days trying to tell everyone what they should or should not do. And if you don't agree then they punish you for it its like their ego gets hurt. This mom is doing the right thing why put a 13 year old through surgery. My daughter has been through plenty of them to fix the inside of her ears so she can hear right and let me tell ya its not fun to go through this with your child the child is in pain and you feel helpless. So to go and put this child through a surgery that isn't needed is not right. She hasn't even stop growing so it would also be stupid. The school are not doctors and shouldn't give out advise. Now if its a problem later on the girl will have a right to choose weather or not she would want the surgery. Its not up to the school.

  47. Nicki Fitzgerald

    That's like telling a person they should be raped by the way they dress. It doesn't work that way. Instead of punishing the victium make the ones who does the crime pay for their actions. There shouldn't be a tolerence for any kind of bulling at school they should take this as serious as they do a terrorist threat. They are both one in the same cause in the end someone is getting hurt but someone elses actions.

  48. Dutch Alexander

    It is not bad enough at that age our children already have self complexes so lets re-enforce beauty only goes as far as what the eyes can see. This story is wrong on so many levels. I knew when my son hit junior high I had to make a choice and put him in private school to give him a fighting chance of not being picked on or bullied… I just had no idea how bad things really were. this is outrageous. Now I will have three more kids to send through school that I have to worry about. I would have thought that with all the new laws this could be prevented but now the school itself is being part of the bulling problem.

  49. Erin Saucida

    Wtf, no it's to hard to make an effort to stop the bullying but make the girl not like herself. not her fault she has big breast. what is wrong with ppl today

  50. Michele Pinkham Gilbert

    {dripping in sarcasm} Yes, clearly THIS is the answer to her problems. We wouldn't want to hurt the self-esteem of the students bullying her by telling them that it is THEIR behavior that is inappropriate, now would we! God only knows the psychological damage we could do there!

  51. Denise Sharon Whitney

    I was sixteen years old when I had a breast reduction. I would say my good friends did not tease me, they understood my insecurities about it. I would tell you that guys looked at my breasts first , not my face. I started going to the plastic surgeon when I was 13 years old and was not allowed to have surgery, until my breasts stopped growing. It was the best thing I ever did. It helped me emotionally, mentally and socially. I would say that if they get too big then problems with your back can occur later in life. The school had no right saying that to the mother of this young lady. I would go after them legally if you can prove it. God bless and good luck. I am the mothers and daughters side.

  52. Apple Thompson

    By looking at your fb picture and your comment, you don't look too good on the outside or the inside. Ugly little man you. Try and have a good day. Seems like your life is miserable.

  53. Lori G Desirey

    I think children who bullie others are insecure & learn their behaviors from their insecure parents. I have been teased & harassed & bullied my entire life. Iff I ever caught my own children doing it ever. They git a good taking to & punishment to suit. We need to stop the cycle.

  54. Chantal Roberts

    This is horrid. So the school is being lazy, not wanting to handle the situation, well isn't that special. So schools can't afford new books, firing teachers, not handling bullies or intending to the victims, and obviously aren't taking care of safety… so what the heck ARE they doing??!!!

  55. Stacie Gray

    First my children r bullied and told to get surgery or transfer then u call me a liar cuz I'm stupid right…sue that school system Mom. Smh

  56. Sean Lassiter

    wow, thats just pathetic… I mean the school needs to crack down on the bullies and not suggest a 13 year old get plastic surgery

  57. Mary Anne Meyne

    This doesn't even make any sense! At 13, she isn't even close to being done developing, she has a long way to go yet.

  58. Shannon McLean-Glass

    The school needs to mind their own business. I would be furious if a school told me that about 1 of my daughters. Start teaching a class on how wrong & hurtful it is to bully others. Sue that school district, then maybe they will learn something. Poor child. Ignorant school.

  59. Babs Duprix

    what the hell is wrong with this school.. and all school systems for that matter? why do they have to say crap like "this was clearly a miscommunication".. why can't they just say that "whoever told this woman's child that she should get breast reduction surgery is a waste of human breath and skin"? why don't they just fire all these shitheads, so they don't have to come up with ANOTHER bullshit story 6 months later? it's not these individuals who are as dumb as a box of rocks who are the problem.. the problem is when school officials are unwilling to do anything about said idiots, who are left to receive a paycheck while our kids continue to get screwed over. the schools would have fewer problems if the administrators would just handle the problem. "a stitch in time…"

  60. Sherry Conley Bay

    ….ok….what about the kids that tease one because her breast are small? does she then get breast enlargement at the urging of the school "officials"? and whose perception of large/small do we use? what's large/small to one person/group, may not be considered the same as another group of peers..where does it all end…i am shocked and saddened that the solution they offered is so demeaning and clearly blaming the victim in this situation…better to punish and educate the bully, don't you think? and encourage the young females and males to accept and celebrate who they are and what God gave them…celebrate diversity! shame on that school and their poor judgement…kudos to the mother of this 13yr old!

  61. Terrica Mccloud

    they need to be suspended or expelled imo. this bullying situation goes too far. it makes no sense that schools do nothing to protect the children that attend them anymore.

  62. Terrica Mccloud

    its not the sports that's the problem. sports incorporate mathematics and other school skills and help children be creative and in some cities, sports are the only outlet students have that keep them off of the streets and from getting into gangs or other forms of violence. focus on the issue its not the after school activities that the children have. its the children that come to the school and pick on others for "fun" and the officials who sit and allow this to happen that's the problem here. when have these adults stopped being adults and started letting children run the schools? sports teams are required to keep academics up and they are taught to work together as teams to achieve good things together. the ged is good but not for everyone and the students should not be forced to get a ged simply because of other students that can't keep their hands/feet to themselves and be nice to others.

  63. Terrica Mccloud

    the school didn't. reread the article the mother said that and if she believes her child was created by god (i didn't see anything about jesus,etc in the article– you brought that in yourself) who are we to tell her that she wasn't.

  64. Terrica Mccloud

    there is nothing wrong with getting a breast reduction if you want one and i am so glad that you went through the surgery and it worked out well for you. but running away from a bully is not a reason to get breast reduction surgery or change yourself in any way. you should not have to change yourself for a bully what happens when they stop looking at your breast then tell you your nose is too big or your hair is too thin or thick or too curly or too black or that your legs are too short or too long or that you are too fat or too skinny when will it stop? the answer is it wont you can do whatever you want to please a bully but they will not be happy with you because you are not the reason they are hurting, its them. the school needs to get to the root of the problem and find out why these children feel its appropriate to bully this child they need to get these parents of the kids who are bullying involved and find out what the reasoning for this is and handle it at the root of the problem, not target a young lady who's body is just beginning to develop at 13.

  65. Terrica Mccloud

    when teachers and students bully your kid that's when you bring a tape recorder to school. record the behavior and politely post it on youtube and send a copy to the press and the school board. then go out to the school and confront the officials at the school. see if they change some things and if some people who deserve to loose their jobs will do just that. see if some parents will band with you and offer a support group for your grandchild and others like her who are being bullied and see if you can work together to do something about it. do not allow them to continue to do this and get away with it.

  66. Terrica Mccloud

    and its not illegal because you didn't bring the recording to court. if you have to get a lawyer involved there's nothing saying you can't.

  67. Terrica Mccloud

    @derrel thompson you should get your breast done as well. ugly big monkey. see it doesn't feel so good when the shoe is on your foot, does it?

  68. Terrica Mccloud

    you can see them alex montejo. then you can see the inside of a prison cell for the rest of your life. have fun with that.

  69. A J Jackson Gum

    I said the school was wrong, and of course, children should be taught manners and consideration, but people are going to be mean, so shouldn't we also teach our children how to handle the harsh realities of life?
    @Toni – No, I was not a bully or the parent of a bully. I am a girl in a family of five boys and was teased and the butt of many cruel jokes both at home and at school. My mother taught me to be proud of who I was and to stand up for myself. What other people say about me is important; what I think of myself is what counts.

  70. A J Jackson Gum

    Oh, and some of you need to learn manners! Do you really think using filthy language gets your message across better than using REAL words? When women, especially, debase themselves in this way, why would anyone think you want to be treated with respect, and, why should you be?

  71. Therese Caserta

    Terrica, in response to you, the mother suggested God should be brought into the school when she said, " [The school should] talk with the kids, let them know, you know, people’s bodies are changing, everybody’s body is different but God made us all great.”
    So, I reiterate, School is not the place for God, Satan, or whatever.