Sex Clubs: A Glimpse Into The Swinging Lifestyle In America [Interview]
Sex clubs have been around for decades, but the taboo nature of visiting such an establishment has greatly diminished in recent years. The swingers lifestyle attracts participants from across a broad spectrum of careers, racial backgrounds, and income brackets. What goes on behind the closed doors of a swingers club? The Inquisitr sat down with The Princeton Club co-owner “Kitty” to find out. The Columbus, Ohio sex club is often referred to as the largest swingers club in the Midwest and the third best swingers lifestyle club in the United States.
IQ – What prompted a highly educated and professional woman to hook her financial future to a sex club?
Kitty – In the 1980s, alternative medicine began to emerge as “the next best thing” and I went to seminars lead by Depek Chopra, Mary Ann Williamson, Larry Dossey, and several others. They made me aware that some truly remarkable healthcare changes were about to happen. In 1999, I left the medical field because I thought very little had changed since the 1980s and started a career in commercial real estate. In 1997, a friend had introduced me to the “lifestyle,” and I thought it was the most remarkable and enlightening thing I had ever experienced.
Through commercial real estate, I had the opportunity to invest in The Princeton Club, which is something I felt very strongly about and something that I knew would positively change peoples’ lives. I feel more strongly than ever that the “lifestyle” is a healthy choice as long as all involved approach it knowingly, respectfully, and with a willingness to expand their relationship as they explore their feelings, desires, and interests.
IQ – What role do you see the swingers club playing in patron’s lives?
Kitty – I think of Club Princeton as a “New Age Hospital” and the member are my patients. It is a hospital that is focused on pleasure instead of pain and illness. Howard Reingold wrote a book titled Virtual Reality. In 1998, I met with an investigator from Washington University, Hunter Hoffman. He was the focus of the book. Yesterday Hunter was on the Today show explaining the mechanisms behind a new paradigm for pain treatment that uses no drugs! Virtual Reality is used instead of drugs to block the signal that the pain uses to send to the brain. I suggest buying the book and reading what is coming down the road regarding virtual reality and sex teledildonics.
IQ – You have stated in precious discussions that many of your customers are happy couples. In general, why do they choose to engage in a swing lifestyle and what type of an impact does it have on their relationships?
Kitty – The lifestyle is so different for so many people, and I think that I’ll focus on the most common types of people/couples that seek out the lifestyle. First, people seek out the lifestyle because the lifestyle is typically not advertised in any magazine, billboard, or phone book. The anonymity of the internet has really opened the lifestyle to many people that would have never found out about it previously. There are couples that go to a lifestyle club once per year and other couples that go almost every weekend. And there are other people that engage in the lifestyle that do not approach it respectfully. They typically are disrespectful to their mate or other members of the lifestyle and do not stay in the lifestyle long. The lifestyle will either enhance a relationship or tear it apart, and it all depends on the respect each person in the relationship has for their mate.
IQ – What is The Princeton Club experience like for women?
Kitty – Women in particular are discovering that the lifestyle is designed for them and that this is a safe place to meet men and women that they may be interested in getting to know better. Most lifestyle clubs are BYOB, unlike bars, and excessive drinking is not encouraged. This creates an environment for people to be authentic, and lasting friendships are developed. Single females and males go to the club to meet other like-minded people that are comfortable with their sexuality and have found the environment to be a place to expand their horizons and discover what is available to them.
IQ – There are many misconceptions about the taboo nature of the swing lifestyle. When many people hear the term “sex club,” images of wild 70s parties immediately spring to mind. There are no fondue pots or “key bowls” at The Princeton Club; the atmosphere is a lot more upscale. Why did you choose to take such a lavish direction with the swingers club and require membership for guests?
Kitty – The State of Ohio requires any club or group to have a membership program. The goal is for the club to feel like any upscale bar so people feel comfortable in an atmosphere that seems familiar to them. When people call the club to ask what to expect, occasionally someone will ask, ‘When I walk through the door, will people rip my clothes off?’ I laugh and say, ‘No, you have to pay extra for that.’ After many people’s first visit, they laugh about how silly it was to be so afraid to walk through the lifestyle door for the first time. At the same time, many say it was a euphoric and out of this world experience. I’ll never forget my first lifestyle experience, and I tell people I felt like Alice in Wonderland walking into another world I had no idea existed. Exponential!
IQ – Cleanliness and privacy are likely major concerns for Princeton Club patrons. How do you protect your guests from photos/videos and sexually transmitted diseases?
Kitty – Because I have 25 years in the medical field, cleanliness is always a priority to me. The club is cleaned the exact way a hospital operating room is cleaned — with bleach. We provide condom dispensers in the restrooms, and most people bring their own protection. Taking videos or photos is prohibited and is part of the membership agreement. This is a big “no-no” in the lifestyle, and the pictures are destroyed if anyone is found to have them on their phone. The members of the club and the staff security help to ensure this very important rule is followed.
IQ – When speaking with multiple female members of The Princeton Club, they all noted how less of a “meat market” type atmosphere there is at the swingers club than at a typical bar. Can you explain why a club focused on fulfilling erotic desires is less bothersome for women than having a drink at a local pub?
Kitty -The lifestyle is designed for women. Bars are really places to sell alcohol and meet with friends that you already know. If a woman is not with the friends that she came with as she’s walking to the bar to get a drink or go to the restroom, there really isn’t anyone looking out for her best interests. At a lifestyle club, not only is she respected, but she is even walked to her car if she leaves the club alone. And lifestyle clubs are social clubs. Many people go to the club not knowing anyone else but who they came with or just themselves.
As the night rolls on, they’ve met many of the other people that attended the party that night. We play ice-breaker games, and most people feel comfortable to go up to someone and introduce themselves. And I almost forgot about the fashion! The lifestyle is the place for women to wear sexy clothes or no clothes and feel very safe and comfortable. When you see clothes in Vogue or a movie star like Rihanna wearing a very revealing outfit and you know that if you wore something like that at your favorite bar, you’d realize you may have to have a bodyguard just so men (and some women) will keep their hands off you. Fashion is worshiped in the lifestyle because it’s designed for women!
IQ – What are your future plans for The Princeton Club?
Kitty – I am transforming the club into a Virtual Reality Studio that anyone can attend from anywhere in the world, 365/24/7! Soon you will be able to go online and design a virtual sexual world that responds to what your senses — skin temp, screen eye-location, etc. — indicate you are attracted to. I’m really excited to be a part of this because women are more likely to go online and discover their sexual desires, and hopefully the statistics will change regarding orgasm achievement. It is shocking to me that so many women do not have an orgasm while having sex with a partner.
Click here for a video interview with Kitty and a tour of The Princeton Club.