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Woman Who Tracked Down Sperm Donor Marries Him In A Low-Key Wedding

Aminah Hart gave birth to her daughter, Leila, on August 14, 2012 courtesy of a sperm donor. Hart grew up without a father in her life and did not want the same to happen to her daughter. She wanted Leila’s father to play a role in her life. Hart found the donor, Scott Andersen; they fell in love and eventually got married. Hart was prepared for motherhood. But had no idea that tracking down the sperm donor of her daughter would lead to her getting married in a beautiful lace gown atop a cliff.

As The Daily Mail reports Hart had decided to go along with IVF procedures after enduring the painful loss of her two kids, Louis and Marlon, to a genetic disorder.

Hart’s first son Marlon died when he was just 4 months while she was living in England. In 2010, when she was back in Australia, she had Louis with another partner. Louis died at 14 months.

“You can’t really put it into words. I had two relationships and two children but it wasn’t until the second one that I got a diagnosis of the genetic disorder.”

At 42, Hart felt the walls closing in and was faced with a genetic disorder that statistically had the chance of occurring once in every four pregnancies. She did not want to put any child through hardship again and decided to look for a sperm donor. A fertility clinic she visited gave the vital statistics of three anonymous men.

Hart, a London-born Australian woman, picked out Scott Andersen’s profile because he described himself as healthy and happy. When she tried locating him again, her mother, Helen, did some sleuthing online and found his picture. She encouraged her daughter to get in touch with the clinic and find out if they could release his personal information in case he wanted to see a photo of his daughter. The clinic did and when Hart contacted Andersen, he was excited to meet his child.

On August 18, 2013, Hart and her mother drove over 90 minutes from Melbourne to Andersen’s house near Philip Island around 140 km southeast of Melbourne. They met Andersen as well as two of his children; he has four. “It was much easier than I had anticipated,” said Hart. “I was nervous…walking in to meet a complete stranger and I had his genetic child in my arms.”

There was an on the spot rapport between them, with Hart finding Andersen “a bit of a talker and easygoing.” Andersen and Hart began spending plenty of time together and things became romantic between them. “Neither of us expected it to happen. I fell in love with Leila before I fell in love with Aminah. It was all odd at the start. But Leila’s beautiful. We arranged to meet once a month. Aminah and I became quite friendly and Leila started calling me daddy and coming to me all the time.”

On a fateful day that would have been a birthday of one of Hart’s late sons, Andersen proposed. Andersen had said he was going out to get some milk but returned with an engagement ring instead. Hart said it was a surprise because she usually spent the day grieving her sons and having a quiet day. Twelve months later, the pair exchanged vows at a wedding in front of 130 of their close friends and family members in Victoria, Australia.

Hart says she does not really believe in fate and counts herself incredibly lucky to have found a loving and generous partner who loves her daughter just as much as she does. “It is incredibly random that two people who wouldn’t have met under different circumstances were brought through a child that was created through sperm donation.”

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