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Bus Monitor Bullied, Experts Say Situation is Part of a Growing Erosion of Grown-Up Authority

Posted: June 23, 2012

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The video of an upstate New York bus monitor being bullied that has thus far raised more than half a million dollars for the woman who was subject to some middle school bullying on a school bus has been viewed millions of times on YouTube, and one type of comment keeps coming up over and over.

Technically, it’s not just the bus monitor being bullied that seems to prompt remarks about “kids these days” and how disrespectful toward authority or adults in general they seem to be. If you’re a parent yourself, you have probably experienced someone telling you basically daily that the answer to “kids these days” is to smack them, and the lack of kid-smacking is why we’ve got these middle school tyrants running about the place, making bus monitors cry.

And indeed, watching the bus monitor get bullied does kind of make anyone probably over the age of 25 wonder what the hell has gotten into kids, and why they’re not afraid of adults — even the adults who should probably be appointed to stick up for a bullied bus monitor.

But experts say in recent years, cyberbullying and generally more lax parenting and schooling parameters have made for a generation of kids who are sort of fine with this whole thing. Ken Trump is president of the National School Safety and Security Services, a Cleveland-based consulting firm, and he spoke about what the video indicates in a recent interview.

Trump explains that a lot of adult authority has been eroded, and the AP article states that 8% of secondary school teachers report having been physically threatened by a student — an even more serious matter than the bullied bus monitor:

“Is what we saw in this video occurring with many children every day with adults? No… One incident is one too many, but we certainly have a problem where the authority of educators and school support personnel has been undermined.”

Do you think the bullied bus monitor video is indicative of how authority among adults has been undermined in school and at home for many kids?



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36 Archived Responses to “ Bus Monitor Bullied, Experts Say Situation is Part of a Growing Erosion of Grown-Up Authority ”

  1. Susan Campo
    Jun 23, 2012

    these kids are a mess…..and I bet their parents won't do sh*t.

  2. Susan Campo
    Jun 23, 2012

    these kids are a mess…..and I bet their parents won't do sh*t.

  3. Susan Campo
    Jun 23, 2012

    these kids are a mess…..and I bet their parents won't do sh*t.

  4. Dawn Sundene Johnson
    Jun 23, 2012

    As a secondary school teacher, I have a lot of really good kids. However, I also see a lot of very enabled students whose parents will believe them over the word of responsible adults – which just reinforces the bad behavior.

  5. Nancy Repass Balatbat
    Jun 24, 2012

    The parents need to wash their dam mouths out with laundry soap and kick their butts all the way to this lady's home and make them get down on their knees and apologize to her.

  6. Nancy Repass Balatbat
    Jun 24, 2012

    The parents need to wash their dam mouths out with laundry soap and kick their butts all the way to this lady's home and make them get down on their knees and apologize to her.

  7. I spank when my child needs it. I don't beat on my child, but he knows that if I find out he is picking on someone else it will not fly in my home. I was picked at and made fun of by people due to something I had no way to control. I don't think people think about what words can do. I know they are just words and they don't hurt but to another kid and to older people who were raised that children should respect older people it does matter. These children will grow up and when it happens to there grandmother they will know how the lady felt. It is sad that with all children are being taught today that manners and respect are not being taught. I guess these children like so many others are seeing it at home. That is where all things good or bad come from if not then the parents are failing these children by not knowing who their children hang with.

  8. I'm appalled at many of the kids these days. I blame the parents for the most part. Most parents are divorced, separated, or too busy to mind them. They get away with a lot. Take away those darn cell phones! They don't need them.Discipline them! Forget about being politically correct. It doesn't work. I raised two girls. Both are adults now and I never had any trouble with them like they do today, because I was home and their Dad was at work. I still believe the old fashioned way is best. They learn to respect others. Have better character too. I know it's not easy for both parents to be around all the time, but they do need a dominant one. Heaven help us when these kids become adults.

  9. yes@Susan Campo, listen to one of the father on TV and he wasn't sure of what???discipline action his son was going to get….DUH! what's wrong with your hand across his ass a couple of times??? ya, think that might work dad??…..draw the line in the sand and if you cross it, this is what will happen to you….c'mon parents, it didn't hurt us to get a lick now and then.,

  10. Yes! It's the same in the workplace. Young people thinking they know more than the older people who work there, and who probably even trained them. I really do think these young ones could have used a little more old fashioned discipline!

  11. Hildy Krish
    Jun 24, 2012

    it is something that is learned at home not at school. Parents seem to want to be more their kid's friend than their parent and I think that is where the problem is.

  12. My daughter is autistic and she was bullied by 5 older boys several years ago. One of them threw her scooter up a tree, than bold face lied to his mom. She said my son would never lie to me, well I found out he confessed it to a friends mom. I had to threaten to throw them in Juvie in order for their parents to wake up, of course they got away with it.

  13. I believe in the old school way that I was raised..there is nothing wrong with spanking your child, my mother did it to me and that is all it took was one time. The problem with today's world is that the gov't says it is wrong and put them in time out or take things away, it don't work. Well my kids don't have cell phones or electronics or TV's in their room why because they don't deserve them they have to earn it and well they just don't get what they want. The kids today have the support of the gov't so if they make fun or bully someone they know their parents are scared to spank them or they will get kids taken away. There is a difference between as good old spanking and abuse.

  14. I am thankful that I raised 3 wonderful daughters who respected everyone. It makes me feel like I am an expert in this department so to speak. It's horrible the way most kids are raised these days. When I was growing up I was bullied for being hearing impaired/speech impaired, for my weight (was not overweight at all), for my nose…whatever they could find. I was not going to have my children be that way with others and chose to make sure they weren't bullies, nor be bullied by their peers.

  15. When I see good kids with their parents, I compliment the parents. I got spanked as a kid and I turned out fine. Too many kids are getting away with alot of stuff.. They are the ones that will be taking care of me when I get old..it is scary….

  16. The little Bastards….

  17. I do agree somewhat that it is the parents that need to discipline their child however it is not always the parents fault because you have the govt the police and the schools telling kids that it is not OK for their parents to spank them. That is BS!!!! I believe the reason these people are behind the child is because at one point in time these gov't people etc.. had their asses handed to them as kids and they didn't like it..GET OVER IT, you learned your lesson didn't you?. And if there are kids out there that are "perfect" its because their parents give them what they want. Sorry but I do not believe that what so ever. If you are a good parent and take things away or don't give them what they want kids today will still walk all over you….so everyone lets thank the system for babying our kids today. The kids today are the way they are cause the system says what their parents are doing is wrong.

  18. all's I can say, spend it well you deserve it. kids now days don't have any respect for any thing or any one. I am sorry that something like that had to happen.

  19. Susan Voysest
    Jun 24, 2012

    I am a single mother of 3 and not one of my kids would ever treat anyone like this. They all know I would beat their Azz if they did. While I do have to work. My kids are never left alone even at 15 and 17. My oldest is 27 year old and on his own. My 17 year old is special needs so, I make sure they always have an adult home when they get here. I work for the school system for the sole purpose of minimizing the amount of time I am away from home. I have all the same days off work as they do from school. Including snow days. I have made it my life's mission to raise educated respectful loving adults. It is not impossible to raise kids as a single parent. Hard yes, but not impossible!!

  20. Susan Voysest
    Jun 24, 2012

    Very true, however it is not against the law to spank your kids in some states. In fact I live in a state that allows it. You can't leave a mark, but you can spank them. I did spank my kids when they were younger and I sure as hell would spank the nonsense out of mine had they been involved in this!!

  21. Susan Voysest
    Jun 24, 2012

    I am sorry to hear this happened to your daughter. My daughter is also autistic also. When she was in 7th grade she had big chunks of her hair cut while she was in class by a nasty little girl sitting behind her. Her hair is very long and extremely thick so she didn't know it happened until she stud up and all this hair fell to the floor. I pressed charges against the girl and pushed for the max. This was not the first time this girl had bully someone so the court gave her a harsh punishment. This put the other kids on notice that if you mess with my daughter you are messing with me, and I don't play nice!!

  22. hope she knows that not all children are like that and some r taught respect. there are children out there that would love to have her for a granny she showed alot of restraint proud of her

  23. YOU HAVE SAID WHAT I HAVE BEEN WANTING TO SAY FOR YEARS, YOU AND YOUR COUSINS ARE STILL HERE AND ARE DOING WELL. THAT IS WHAT THE PROBLEMS WITH THE KIDS TODAY. YOU NEVER HEARD OF THESE PROBLEMS WHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP. YOU TAKE CARE. WE REALLY NEED TO CONNECT ON THE PHONE. WOULD LOVE TO TALK TO YOU.

  24. i am sure she knows that ,she has grandkids of her own,she seem like a very nice lady,her kids will reflact that from her.i am sure she love all kids,she a montor on a bus. you know what i mean.you got to love them if you want that job.

  25. I work as a sales person and I have seen children that don't respect their parerents. "Kid says I want it you buy it." parent replies I don't have the money. so the kid gives the parents bad words and gets mad. I think parents should teach kids to respect others especially the elderly. I was raised to be respectful towards other people. But sometimes the kid is just being a kid and the parent screams at them with such bad words that it makes me feel sad for those children. I'm trying to raised my baby to be good and I hope she doesn't get bullied like me.

  26. Kristina Mehling
    Jun 24, 2012

    Not only did this video show the world the complete disrespect that kids have for adults these days, it also showed how kids treat EACHOTHER. I was bullied like that almost everyday about my weight in school! It hurts me to think that it makes national news when an adult is bullied like this, yet children are mercilessly bullied EVERY SINGLE DAY and nothing is done about it.

  27. Anonymous
    Jun 25, 2012

    the morale in this country has deteriorated since bill clinton got by with his antics against women during his presidency.he should be in jail for rape and should haved been impeached by the senate.this began the morale downfall.people think what the hell the president got by with it , why not me.and the political bickering isn't helping either.the democrats constantly playing the race card and totally abusing George Bush as president, but if you say anything about obama your a racist bigot.this is the mindeset of the people today!

  28. Anonymous
    Jun 25, 2012

    thse kids should be suspended from any schoolbus service and made to do community service at a nursing home!

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  30. 28 And so, since they did not see fit to acknowledge God or approve of Him or consider Him worth the knowing, God gave them over to a base and condemned mind to do things not proper or decent but loathsome,

    29 Until they were filled (permeated and saturated) with every kind of unrighteousness, iniquity, grasping and covetous greed, and malice. [They were] full of envy and jealousy, murder, strife, deceit and treachery, ill will and cruel ways. [They were] secret backbiters and gossipers,

    30 Slanderers, hateful to and hating God, full of insolence, arrogance, [and] boasting; inventors of new forms of evil, disobedient and undutiful to parents.

    31 [They were] without understanding, conscienceless and faithless, heartless and loveless [and] merciless.

    32 Though they are fully aware of God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve to die, they not only do them themselves but approve and applaud others who practice them.

  31. BUT – So repent (change your mind and purpose); turn around and return [to God], that your sins may be erased (blotted out, wiped clean), that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord;.
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  32. Right, disrespectful kids and bullying is ALL the Democrats fault because we all know how respectful Republicans are and they NEVER bully other countries…

  33. Now, I agree with that.

  34. IKR? I can't stand "Halo Parent Syndrome." I get one every year and when I do, I have that child transferred to another class. There's no way I'm dealing with perpetuated inappropriate behavior from a child because of his/her parent all year long and having a miserable year. No way…

  35. Of course not. In fact, one of the kids' dad was actually making EXCUSES for why his son behaved that way. REALLY??