Frances Bean Cobain shocked the world and her own mother, Courtney Love, when she secretly wed long-time boyfriend, Isaiah Silva in a private ceremony. It wasn’t just that Frances, daughter of late Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love, didn’t invite her mother to the intimate ceremony, but sources report that Love wasn’t even aware of the wedding.
“Courtney loves Isaiah, but was devastated to learn that Frances had gotten married without her knowing,” a source told E! News of Frances Cobain’s wedding, “Courtney really likes Isaiah and is very happy for Frances. Courtney is sad she wasn’t at the wedding.”
The source added that, while Courtney was sad not to be included in the wedding, a phone call straightened things out between mother and daughter. Ms. Love understands why Frances eloped the way she did and apparently supports the marriage.
Ms. Cobain had dated Silva for five years, prior to the wedding and friends report that Frances has found much needed stability and support from Isaiah. The wedding had been in the works for over a year, though both Cobain and Silva had chosen to keep their plans as quiet as possible and drafted a small guest list of only 13-15 people. The ceremony’s theme was enhanced by butterflies in mason jars, reported the same insider.
Frances has struggled with Kurt’s suicide and her own sense of identity all of her life, making her teenage years that much more angst ridden than they might have normally been. In September 2005, Ms. Cobain gave her first interview in Teen Vogue, making a definite point to say that she was striving to create her own identity, separate from the notoriety that had followed her family throughout Kurt Cobain’s career and even more so since the Nirvana singer’s death.
Even this early article made clear the differences that would be the early beginnings of a tumultuous relationship between Frances and Courtney with Ms. Cobain, 13 years old at the time of the interview, expressing her disdain for her mother’s metal-influenced fashion sense.
“I prefer when she’s more classy starlet,” Frances Bean said. “I don’t really like her hard-metal stuff, or when she doesn’t brush her hair.”
Ms. Cobain also questioned her mother’s opinion on matters, proving that she has been and continues to be just as rebellious as mother Courtney in most aspects.
“She tells me to ‘live free and be free, but listen to other people’s advice’,” Cobain says. “I listen, but I don’t always follow it.”
As Frances matured, so did her views on her father’s passing, proven by her reaction to a social media post by Lana Del Rey on the topic of Kurt dying at such a tragically young age.
“I wish I was dead already…. I do. I don’t want to have to keep doing this,” Ms. Del Rey posted on her Twitter account in 2014.
Understandably, Frances was quick to take offense to the post and immediately responded with the passion and conviction one would expect from the daughter of Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love.
“I’ll never know my father because he died young & it becomes a desirable feat because ppl like u think it’s ‘cool’…Well, it’s f—ing not. Embrace life, because u only get one life. The ppl u mentioned wasted that life. Don’t be 1 of those ppl.”
Although Frances and Courtney have not always seen eye to eye, the mother and daughter have remained close and try to get along as well as they can, considering how differently they each view the world.
[Featured image: Frances Bean Cobain and Courtney Love courtesy of Jason Merritt/Getty Images]