In a bizarre story of incestuous romance, an 18-year-old girl admits to dating and being engaged to her father. The teenager spoke with New York Magazine, sharing details about how this father-daughter relationship began and how it’s blossomed over the last two years. It’s not a typical family vortex, but the young woman insists she and her 36-year-old father have a great connection and are fine with how things are.
The unidentified teen is from the Great Lakes region, and says her mom gave birth to her after getting pregnant on prom night. The mother’s relationship with the girl’s father didn’t last, and she chose to raise their daughter on her own. Due to the mom’s mental health issues with bipolar disorder and other problems, their daughter feels this is the reason why her parents didn’t stay together.
When the girl was born, her father wasn’t around because she says her mother wasn’t interested in staying in a relationship with her dad and kept him at a distance. Not long after their bundle of joy was born, the girl’s mother had a nervous breakdown. The girl lived with her great-grandparents until she was 2-years-old.
When the girl was 3- and 4-years-old, her father would make visits to see her on the weekends. This happened until the girl was about 5. She says her parents always argued about visitation. Her dad lived an hour away.
“He was always doing the drive to see me because my mom wasn’t very fond of it — she wouldn’t even meet him halfway,” the girl says.
Throughout the next 12 years, the father and daughter didn’t see each other.
At the age of 15, the young woman says her father emailed her mom about seeing her. For whatever reason, it didn’t work out, and they didn’t meet until she was 17. During that time, the teen claims she had a string of stepfathers who dated her mentally unstable mother. She had abandonment issues, and jumped at the chance to see her biological father again when he was able to contact her on Facebook.
In an eye-opening observation the girl made about her father, she instantly had certain feelings for him for when they actually met in person. She recalls her thoughts as being something not your average daughter thinks about, unless she’s a girl dating her father.
“He’s so good-looking! And then I was like, ‘What the hell are you thinking? What is wrong with you?’ I saw him as my dad but then also part of me was like, I’m meeting this guy who I have been talking to over the internet and really connecting with and I find him attractive.”
After staying with her dad about five days, she realized that she was “sexually attracted” to him. They had a lot in common, and had gotten very close. They talked about having a romantic relationship, and the 18-year-old even lost her virginity to him.
Now the girl is engaged to her father. Her mother isn’t aware of their engagement, but will find out after they move to New Jersey, which is free of criminal violations against adult incest. According to the Criminal Defense Lawyer website, incest marriages in the state are considered “void.”
Surprisingly, many family members are supportive of the father and daughter being engaged.
“Everyone on my mom’s side of the family sees us as father and daughter. Those who know that he’s my dad, and that we are engaged, include my father’s parents (they can see we are happy together and they can’t wait for us to have babies — they treat us just like any other couple), the woman we live with, and my best friend.”
The girl isn’t worried about genetic issues having children with her own dad.
“That happens when there’s years of inbreeding, like with the royal family. Incest has been around as long as humans have. Everybody just needs to deal with it as long as nobody is getting hurt or getting pressured or forced.
“There are so many people having kids who will be passing on health problems, people with diabetes or mental health issues, or AIDS. My mom was allowed to have kids and both her and her mom were bipolar.”
You can read the full in-depth interview here about the girl who’s engaged to her father.
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